Having healthy self-esteem can make a difference to your mental wellbeing and overall quality of life. Self-esteem is the subjective sense of overall personal worth or value, which is basically how you perceive yourself. It can influence how you navigate life decisions, challenges, and relationships. Self-esteem that is too high or too low, however, can be problematic.
When you are able to balance your self-esteem, you are more likely to trust your judgment, set healthy boundaries, and recover more quickly from setbacks. If your self-esteem is low, you could experience:
- Difficulty accepting compliments
- Fixation on past mistakes
- People-pleasing tendencies
- Self-doubt
- Comparing yourself to others
- Need for external validation
- Negative self-talk
- Trouble setting boundaries
According to research from 2023, self-esteem is linked to many areas of daily life, including relationships and how you feel at work. Self-esteem is closely linked to mental health, with higher self-esteem associated with lower levels of depression and anxiety. Self-esteem is not constant; rather, it can go up and down. You can strengthen your self-esteem over time by developing small, consistent habits. Build a more supportive relationship with yourself and improve your self-esteem today.Â
Build A Strength’s Awareness Habit
It is very easy to focus on things that you don’t do well, but all of your strengths deserve equal attention. Make it a habit to reflect on things that you do well, such as being a good listener, showing up on time, being resilient, or remaining organized. Jot down one thing every day or revise moments, during which you handled something brilliantly. That process helps train your brain to see a more accurate picture of who you are.
Notice And Reframe Negative Self-Talk
The way you speak to yourself can influence how you approach different things in life. It’s safe to say that most people have an inner critic that can quickly point out mistakes or assume the worst in things or people. Rather than silencing it completely, acknowledge this voice when it comes up. Accept that you are having a negative thought whenever it arises. By creating a small moment of awareness, you can step back from the thought instead of believing it instantaneously. You can then question the validity of your thought, or consider what a close friend might say/do in the current situation. Over time, you can start replacing overly critical thoughts with compassionate, balanced reactions.
Surround Yourself With Supportive Influences
The people you surround yourself with can influence how you see and talk to yourself. Surrounding yourself with positive, loving people can make a big difference in your self-esteem and overall outlook on life. Pay attention to how you feel after hanging out with certain people, or engaging with certain content online. Ideally, lean into relationships that feel safe, respectful, and encouraging. Not everything in life is positive all the time, but consistent support from people around you can make a meaningful difference to your self-esteem.
Practice Compassion During Setbacks
Every human messes up and experiences setbacks. Humans are imperfect, after all. Don’t interpret mistakes as proof that something is wrong with you; rather, view them as part of the learning or growing process. Self-compassion is about acknowledging something that is hard without adding layers of judgment. For example, something may not turn out the way you hope it to, but there is always a lesson to learn. That way of thinking can help protect your self-esteem in challenging moments.Â
Limit Comparison Whenever Possible
It’s so easy to compare yourself to others, especially if you are on social media a lot. Constantly comparing yourself to others can distort your reality and undermine your total sense of worth. You want to build yourself up, not bring yourself down! Whenever you notice that you’re comparing yourself to others, direct your focus back to you, such as your progress, challenges, and timing. Whatever you are doing is unique to you, and shifting your focus inward can help you grow on your own path.Â
Keep Small Promises To Yourself
Trust is a key component to developing good self-esteem. An effective way to build trust is by following through on things that you’ll say you will do. Start small by setting a specific goal for yourself, such as planning to cook one nourishing meal this week or going to a yoga class. Maybe you spend 20 minutes on a hobby you enjoy or complete a chore that you’ve been putting off. Each time you follow through with something you set out to do, you are not only completing a task, but also proving to yourself that you can show up and put in the effort. That trust helps reinforce the belief that you can handle difficult things, and consistent small wins like that can build a strong, internal foundation.
Vincent Stevens is the senior content writer at Dherbs. As a fitness and health and wellness enthusiast, he enjoys covering a variety of topics, including the latest health, fitness, beauty, and lifestyle trends. His goal is to inform people of different ways they can improve their overall health, which aligns with Dherbs’ core values. He received his bachelor’s degree in creative writing from the University of Redlands, graduating summa cum laude. He lives in Los Angeles, CA.
