To embrace the self for all of its attributes, whether mental or physical, and negative or positive, is self-acceptance. It’s possible for someone to struggle to accept certain qualities of the self from time to time. That is especially true in a time when it’s very easy to compare the self to everything that is happening on social media or popular culture. Perhaps trauma from childhood also makes it difficult to extend compassion to the self. Whatever the case, accepting who you are is vital for overall happiness and well-being.
Self-Acceptance For Psychological Health
If you have low self-acceptance, your psychological health may suffer. The incapability to fully accept yourself can put you at a higher risk for experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression. Some research notes that rejecting negative qualities about yourself can cause you to fixate on those attributes, which encourages negative self-talk. Some examples of negative self-talk include:
- “I’m such a failure.”
- “I’m not good enough.”
- “That person is so smart and I could never be like that.”
Negative statements such as the ones listed above can cause you to lose feelings of hope and self-worth, and increase feelings of anxiety and sadness. When you can finally accept yourself, even the qualities that you may not be proud of, you retain more control of your emotions. That means that self-acceptance may help prevent anxiety and depression, provided you put the work in.
How To Practice Self-Acceptance
Self-acceptance sounds easy, right? Like anything, practice makes perfect, but you have to know where to start. Below, we’ll take a look at three techniques that will help you practice self-acceptance.
Keep A Gratitude Journal
Do you ever find yourself ruminating about things that went wrong during the day? Don’t dwell on negativity or negative qualities, unless you want to spiral out of control. Shift to a more positive mindset by keeping a journal, or even writing notes on your phone. A great daily practice to help foster a more positive mindset is to write down five things that you are grateful for. When you focus on the positive, you start to reduce feelings of negativity. This practice helps you accept yourself more mindfully.
You Are A Work In Progress
The great part of being human is that you can always learn new things. When starting a new hobby or learning a new skill, it is natural to not be very good at it. You are just starting and there is a learning curve! Maybe you decide to participate in a baking class and notice that your classmates have baked perfect cookies. You look at your oven and you see that your cookies are burned. Don’t let negative thoughts like, “I’m such a terrible baker,” enter your mind. You can return to class and should not be discouraged by a small setback. Tell yourself that you are a work in progress, so that you can better handle your thoughts. You can always try again! Don’t expect to be perfect on the first go-around, or else you will wind up spiraling into negativity.
Look At Your Experiences From A Different Perspective
Do you find yourself thinking about an event, emotion, or experience that brings about feelings of unhappiness? Look at the situation from a different perspective in an attempt to find a silver lining. There is nothing wrong with viewing the glass half full! Maybe you get dressed up to go out and take a sip of a drink that you spill all over your shirt/dress/top. Now that’s a frustrating experience, but you don’t need to add fuel to the fire and make it more frustrating. Instead, find the positive or talk to a friend about what just happened to get a little more perspective on the matter. If you remain stuck in your feelings, you look at things too negatively. Find a fresh take on the subject and you may notice things that you didn’t before that help you accept yourself.
Vincent Stevens is the senior content writer at Dherbs. As a fitness and health and wellness enthusiast, he enjoys covering a variety of topics, including the latest health, fitness, beauty, and lifestyle trends. His goal is to inform people of different ways they can improve their overall health, which aligns with Dherbs’ core values. He received his bachelor’s degree in creative writing from the University of Redlands, graduating summa cum laude. He lives in Los Angeles, CA.
