Relationship Questions – Part 1



How Do I Find My Perfect Partner, Soul Mate, or Husband/Wife?

Stay open and go with the flow. Remember that your ideal companion is out there and remain positive. There is no need to search for your partner; you allow them to come into your life. Trust that the timing will work out.

How Do I Prepare For My Soul Mate?

Simply be the best man or woman that you can be.

Try to cultivate in yourself the qualities you wish to see in your partner. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. So if you want a health conscious soul mate, become health conscious yourself. If you want a soul mate that has a positive mental attitude, develop a positive mental attitude yourself. Become what you seek to attract; this process must start with you.

What Should I be Looking For or Desiring In a Soul Mate?

It is important to have a good idea of what you’re looking for in a partner. Some positive qualities include:

  • Physical beauty
  • Sex appeal
  • Sensual nature
  • Financially secure
  • Spiritual
  • Religious
  • Healthy
  • Politically astute
  • Intelligent (book smarts)
  • Witty
  • Supportive
  • Compassionate
  • Loving
  • Principled (morals, ethics, integrity, etc.)
  • Understanding
  • Patient
  • Willing to learn new things
  • Honest
  • Emotional stability
  • Wisdom
  • Knowledgeable

It is up to you to rank the characteristics of your ideal partner and then decide your most desired attributes.

How Will I Know When I Have Met My Soul Mate?

Trust your instincts.

You will connect and feel an instant attraction. These feelings will become clearer and stronger over the months and your relationship will remain smooth, with few issues and arguments. Lust won’t be involved.

Regardless of odds, challenges, setbacks, and zodiac signs, all couples can make it if they decide to. Whether a relationship succeeds or fails boils down to the choices made by the partners. Have faith in yourself and your partner, and believe that you can achieve your happy ending together.

What’s the Most Important Thing That I Can Do Right Now To Be Open For My Soul Mate and Also to Ensure a Happy and Healthy Union When My Soul Mate Arrives?

Discover your life’s purpose.

Figure out what makes you happy and run towards that with all of your heart. Try to be less consumed by daily tasks and financial concerns, and instead focus on living your life the way that you want to live it. Your self-confidence and satisfied contentment will signal to others that you are the kind of person worth knowing.

Great blessings await you if you follow your heart!

Should I Consider Astrology In Desiring My Soul Mate?

The choice is totally up to you.

Although not everyone embraces astrology due to their religious beliefs or skepticism, at the very least it provides a conversation starter. For believers, astrology can help predict the traits and attributes of the prospective partner. For example:

  • If you long for a person who loves to help people, go with Virgo.
  • If you greatly desire someone who loves knowledge and social change, then Aquarius is your best bet.
  • If loyalty, patience, perseverance, and commitment are your preferred qualities, then Taurus is your sign of choice.
  • If your ideal partner has strong will, intelligence, and personal drive, then Aries is your best bet.

Earth signs are “practical” and include Taurus (April 20 – May 20), Virgo (August 24 – September 23), and Capricorn (December 23 – January 19). The people born under these signs are pretty much the same, i.e. grounded, practical, earthy, and material.

Water signs are “emotional” and include Cancer, (June 23 – July 23), Scorpio (October 24 – November 22), and Pisces (February 20 – March 20). The people born under these signs are pretty much the same, i.e. emotional, intuitive, and deep feeling.

Air signs are “mental” and include Gemini (May 22 – June 22), Libra (September 24 – October 23), and Aquarius (January 20 – February 19). The people born under these signs are pretty much the same, i.e. mental, communicative (talkative), and very friendly.

Fire signs are “inspirational” and include Aries (March 21 – April 20), Leo (July 24 – August 23), and Sagittarius (November 23 – December 22). The people born under these signs are pretty much the same, i.e. fiery, inspirational, fun loving, and somewhat self-centered (but not in a bad way).

How Important is Physical Appearance?

Usually, inner beauty manifests itself externally, especially after the relationship develops. With all the focus placed upon physical beauty by the media, it is important to remember the Temptations line that “Beauty is only skin deep.” Although it can be important, physical beauty is fleeting whereas inner beauty and compatibility will hopefully last a lifetime.

Thank you for reading!


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    Q: I'm interested in purchasing the Leo Formula. I was born on August 23, some years the Sun went into Leo on the 22nd, and some years the Sun entered Leo on the 24th. Usually the Sun enters Leo on the 22nd. The year I was born, and the time I was born, the Sun was still in Leo at 29`degrees. Many astrologers ends the Leo cycle on the 22nd of August. This is not always the case. I am born on the cusp of Leo-Virgo. Would you suggest I take the herbal formular for both signs? Thanks for reading!


    You could take the formula of both signs since you are born on the cusp. However, always remember that even though a sign ends on a particular day i.e. August 22, it takes approximately 5 days for the next sign to kick in energy-wise. So, people (Virgo's) born From August 23-27 are still under the influence of Leo, and thus technically, you'd only have to be concerned about Leo. Cusp people are influenced by the traits of the 2 annexing signs.

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    Q: Hello... I apologize for the length of this because I understand how precious your time is. About 2 weeks ago I had a one-night stand. We used a flavored condom. A few days after I began to have some vaginal itching, which I disregarded as yeast infection I took some black walnut hulls but that did and the itching subsided it a bit. I decided to buy some vagisil (I know its toxic but the itching was unbearable and I wanted immediate relief so badly.) Later on that day my clitoris began to burn but I thought it was from the vagisil. Fast-forward 2 days I looked at my vagina in a mirror and noticed there was a small scab on clitoris. Immediately thought I had herpes. I read your article on herpes and thought I needed to detox my body immediately I have been living unrighteous and it is time to live righteously! I forgave myself for abusing myself with alcohol and weed and unrighteous sex. I then forgave the person for giving me herpes. I'm grateful I had that encounter because it taught me to become center and grounded. I ordered the full body detox, which I am on currently and thought maybe I should do the anti viral kit & regimen afterwards. However I did not get tested for herpes and I may not even have it. I did not want to get tested because I did not want it on the books that I have herpes. I fully agree and over stand there are no incurable diseases. MY body is in a diseased state and blood is toxic. My question is should I get tested after the anti viral regimen kit if I have never been diagnosed with the disease. And I am also a college student with limited funds and not sure if I should invest in the kit because I do not have any money right now. I'M not having sex again until it is with a soul mate. I do want to take an HIV test to show my soul mate I do not have that disease. (in case he asks) I have never taken one of those before. Will it come back negative after the full body detox? I'm not sure what to do from here. Thank you for time. I truly appreciate your site. If I had not found your site I would not be a vegetarian to day and I would not know how to heal myself. I excited about my new path of living positively!


    I would suggest you read our article "Genital Herpes". Sound likes you learned a serious lesson. Now it's time to heal. I would recommend performing the Anti-Viral kit followed by the Full Body Detox and if you can only order one product, I'd say give the Anti-Viral a try. Please read our free health articles. they will further stimulate thinking.

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    Q: Happy New Year to You and yours!!! My son is three years old; he was born December 12, 2004, this was a Sunday. Ever since he started talking he's had a fascination with the light and light bulbs. He looks up and says "mom look, the light is beautiful" or "mom see the beautiful light bulb". I look at it and I usually say yes it is beautiful Jordan. However, I do not see what he sees nor do I understand the attraction. When he was two weeks old I took him with me to Olive May and the old wise woman there saw him and asked me to bring him to her. When she looked at him she said "he is indigo--he is like sunshine when he enters a room and people will be drawn to him." So far the part about people being drawn to him has manifest true. What do you think of the attraction/fascination to the lights? Also, I read that awesome article on birthmarks!! I don't have one, however, my son has one on his buttock; I don't remember which one at the moment. His primary pediatrician called it a mongolian spot..what do you say?? Does it mean he will fall and hurt himself or has fallen?? Looking forward to seeing you in March. Love, Peace and Blessings.


    You son is most definitely an INDIGO CHILD (specifically a CRYSTAL or RAINBOW CHILD manifesting all 7 spectrums of color of the Rainbow). His preoccupation with lights could denote many things. For one, he is Light himself (light-worker). It could be that he still remembers the Light before re-incarnating this time around. We all eventually move into the Light in order to move on. Mongolian spot? A very negative term! Buttocks denote an injury that occured on that area in a past life. Birthmarks don't mean something adverse will happen to you in this lifetime where your birthmark is. It doesn't mean this at all. Just be open to experience and learn from and with your child. Live in the moment and just be open!

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    Q: I was reading your article on Astrological Health and I am a Scorpio woman, born on October 31, who does not have a strong sex drive at all. In fact I've never really been into sex at all which has made my partners upset and discouraged at times and has had me thinking that something may be wrong with me. I have even considered seeing a sexual doctor about these issues. You state that the "Scorpio governs the genitalia or sex" and this explains our sex drive but yet I've been sexually active for 7 years and have also never had an orgasm. I was molested from ages 4 to 11 and sometimes I think this has something to do with how I am but I'm just not sure. I would really like to increase my sex drive and be able to orgasm and have considered taking your bunny rabbit formula in order to fix this but now knowing that astrologically I'm supposed to be opposite of how I am (which I've heard before but didn't know the extent until now), I'm beginning to think something is seriously wrong with me. What are your thoughts?


    Please consider scheduling a consultation so we can get to the root of the issue and help you to unblock your blockages that are preventing you from truly enjoying sex and having an orgasm. Consultations are now half price ($50). There is healing and help for you! You're just missing the knowledge you require.

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    Q: I'm looking for LOVE ASAP!!! What's in the signs for a Scorpio? November 18th.


    I'm going to be real with you, beloved! There's so much to astrological profiling that necessary time is required and as such you'd fare well to just schedule the necessary 1-hour consultation to get the information and knowledge you seek and need pertaining to love and your sign of Scorpio.

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    Q: My mate 35 yr old and just find out she is pregnant two weeks in and I was looking into getting some prenatal from you....this being her fourth child...i saw the prenatal cleaner, prenatal multivitamin, prenatal laxative, prenatal formula and the tea....can you give me some guidance and this for me....thank you....


    All of the Prenatal supplements you listed are good for her to take. We would recommend all of the prenatal supplements, but it should be based on her personal needs. We suggest that she does the 10 Day Electric Greens Combo.

    10 Day Electric Greens Combo Regimen - 

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    Q: I read that illness is a spirit/soul problem that then manifests in the body? How does one heal his/her soul/spirit?



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    Q: My darling partner has a prostate problems, hypertension and diabetes these health issues plus a daily neck pain and bodily pain which moves around. His bowel movements are good being 3 times daily and water intake approx. 1.5 to 2 liters per day. He takes 100mg coenzymes Qq10 twice daily, cod liver oil and various other supplements inc. alpha lipoic acid to help prevent nerve damage repair. So far he seems to be managing the ill health without taking toxic drugs. However he stills gets toe pains. I would like his health to be restored. Can you please help me?


    We would recommend your partner try our 20-Day Full Body Cleanse. The Full Body Cleanse is a safe and effective 20-day herbal-based Cleanse that helps you work toward ensuring that your entire body is functioning at an optimal level: your immune system, circulatory system, digestive system, respiratory system, organs, vessels, and more.

    Once he completes the cleanse, he should take these formulas: Nerves Formula, Headache & Pain Formula, and MSM Sulfur.


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    Q: I know you are an herbalist and I have read your articles on relationships, but I really need to discuss an issue with a conscious person like yourself. I have a friend who is a conscious brother, he made it known that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, claims he's to busy, but he is into having a spiritual sexual relationship(releasing energy he says on a spiritual level). My thought is that in order to connect with someone totally on a sexual level they should be a unit to experience this sacred sexual experience he refers to, otherwise to me it seems a very clever why to have sex without the commitment of being in a relationship. I would really appreciate your thoughts.


    Dudes can be so clever! He sounds like a Taurus! LOL!

    He's using spirituality to justify having sex with you. There's no spirituality with a casual sex partner. This practice is deep and creates serious energetic connections via the chakras. There's no connection without being a unit and having a commitment. My motto is: no sex absent love and commitment (unless both parties agree)! Hope this helps you out!

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    Q: I was most impressed by your website. The information to support your products and your obvious interest in informing the public caught and kept my attention. As I searched further into Black Seed Tea, the reason for my visit, I noticed your product ALCOHOL BUSTER. The comment of "on the metaphysical level, alcohol consumption also impairs the human aura" although very non clinical, is very much my way of thinking, it got my attention. I read as far as the disclaimer, "the formula does not have the power to prevent consumption of alcohol as only will power and a made up mind can do this." Here's where I step out of character and find myself writing this e-mail. It has been my experience while working with people from all walks of life, who are members of any 12 step program, that a reference to will power as a prevention of anything is a two edged sword. While I agree will power is important in abstention, I believe the person is benefited by using their personal will power to seek help, to commit to recovery, to take care of the physical, mental and emotional bodies. I don't believe "human" will power is the power that prevents consumption. The suggestion that "will power and a made up mind can prevent consumption of alcohol" to a person with an addiction could become a deadly idea. This of course is my opinion, do with it what you feel is appropriate.


    I feel you in where you're coming from, but I truly believe and know human willpower plays a role in prevention and healing of all disease. The strongest thing humans have is a will. Will meshes with desire in many cases. Both are strong in humans. Now, you're dealing with a person with addiction in regards to your last statement and I can totally understand where you are coming from but the sick person is not exempt from any laws of healing. There is no real or true healing absent willpower to do a thing, a beneficial thing. The addicted person must be first dealt with on the physical and psychological levels and then the spiritual and energetic (getting to the root of the addiction: perhaps a 2nd chakra problem or something hanging over from a past life). All addiction points to spiritual void and therefore the only ultimate healing here is mental or spiritual via mental. As you know, it's mind-body-spirit and all must be dealt with for healing. Will is important in abstention but we don't won't people to focus on abstaining which is usually converted into "can't have" by the addicted person. We want people to only focus on the good, the healthy, what they need and require, not what they don't want or can't have because their subconscious mind will create the situations and circumstances by which these people end up consuming the thing that is insalubrious for them. It never fails. I grew up with an alcoholic mother and plenty of other alcoholics. We want people to have and use willpower to GO FOR the best things for them, will in DOING the right and healthy things for themselves. All healing is ultimately within self. As a man thicket so is he! Peace be unto you fellow metaphysician!

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    Q: My son was on medications for ADHD for @5 yrs. He started expressing signs of paranoia. I stopped his medications, but every few months I notice strange behavior as if he is still on meds. He appears paranoid and then within a few days his appears to be himself. Any suggestions on herbs to maybe help the situation? Thank you


    We have an article on our site under ARTICLES on this subject you may find interesting! Look for â€ATTENTION-DEFICIT DISORDERâ€

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    Q: I would like to know, if you have any skin care programs, for women age 50 and over. I am going to try the detox progarm as soon as possible. I truly believe that I am going to be very happy with the results. I am 51 years old, and I want to look and feel my best. I have a lot of belly fat, and that makes me feel uncomfortable, because some people will ask me, if I am pregnant. This seems very strange to me, because my stomach seems to be the main place, where all the fat is building up. I desire to have beauty inside and out. I want to be completely whole. If you have tips for skin care and body care, please let me know. Some people say that I look like I am in my forties, however, if I did not have all of this extra body fat, I could really believe what they are saying.


    The blood needs to be cleansed in order to enhance your skin and eliminate excess fat.

    We would recommend you perform the Full Body Cleanse which can help improve skin complexion, release weight, and detoxify, purify, rejuvenate, and strengthen the body and all of its eliminative channels.

    We also have a Facial Skin Kit that works to naturally restore the health of skin by helping to remove blemishes, hydrate skin, and even out complexion for resilient skin.

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    Q: When I use the OZ OIL my outer skin is very soft and subtle. However deep down in the skin I feel very itchy. I have been assuming this is the effect of the oil doing its job. After a few weeks I got the feeling that I should try to loofa off the top layers of skin so the under skin could rejuvenate its self. I suppose I am writing because I want to check to make sure that the deep itching truly is a positive healing process before I purchase another bottle. Also to prompt you for any other ideas you might have to help my condition. It is purely beauty based btw I don't have any skin illness.


    The itching is a natural side effect that a healing crisis is taking place. Keep using the Oxy Oil at your discretion.

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    Q: I am listening to you on Rainbow soul talking about cellulite and stretch marks and it sounds as if you have just given up on the black female race like there is no help for big women.

    A: I haven't given up on big Black women at all. The fact is that most big Black women BLACK discipline and will not do what is necessary. The simple fact that they blew up in the first place says a lot (i.e. poor self-esteem, low self-image, unhappiness, undisciplined, etc.)

    That is another story though cause I'm not big AT ALL!! but I am a black female. I'm writing an article soon on Black women and obesity: causes/origins, dangers, and solutions. Now does this sound like I have given up????

    ANYWAY - my question to you is - Since January 8, 2007 I stopped eating meat and I saw a tremendous result in my complaint areas. Good for you!

    Now I'm pregnant and read that protein develops the babies brain so I started eating meat until I have the baby. LORD HAVE MERCY!!!! I greatly disagree with this, but it's your choice. I have 3 vegan-vegetarian children. Their mothers didn't eat meat during their pregnancies. You don't have to worry about the development of your baby's brain. The body intelligence has that covered. Meat is not protein unless you eat it raw (but the WHOLE animal must be eaten)!!!

    Is it safe to drink protein shakes to replace the protein instead of eating meat? You can't get bio-protein from protein shakes. Protein shakes are made from waste products (i.e. radiated soy, whey, etc.). If you really want natural proteon, check out our Bio-Protein we sell. It's 100% all-natural. But remember, protein is in every natural food you eat. How do herbivore animals in the wild get their protein since they don't eat meat???

    Meat for protein is a great conspiracy and propaganda tactic. Read Dherbs articles "PROTEIN PROPAGANDA" and "THE DANGERS OF EATING MEAT."

    Regardless of how you view me, thank you for your interest in Dherbs.Com!

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    Q: I was wondering in your list you include foods that are classified as acidic (AC). I thought we were to avoid acidic foods so we can stay alkaline or do we need some acidic foods? I am guessing that there is a better explanation but please let me know. My partner and I have changed our diet after watching your videos and Dr Sebi’s video and we are very curious about this.



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    Q: My partner has a serious problem with his gums. He is only thirty three and he's losing most of his teeth. The dentist keeps removing them and he has some implants. What can he take to build his gums up and his teeth stop falling out?

    A: His body is most likely too acidic. He needs to drastically change his diet to more alkaline in order to start healing.

    Also, he should start by gargling with warm water, sea salt and hydrogen peroxide 2-3 times a day.

    An herbal toothpowder will also help him. A good toothpowder stops gums from bleeding!

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    Q: I wondered why I had such a strong connection to you. I understand now after reading some of your articles. My mother is a Aries, and my father is a Libra. I'am a Taurus Female, and my ex-husband is a Virgo. My current man friend is a Virgo, and my daughter is a Capicorn. After reading your manuals, and articles on a daily bases. Everything is much clearer now. I hope to meet you someday. Maybe in New York this summer, or when you come to the QC know as Charlotte, NC. I love your spirit. Thanks for all you do. In Love and in Light.


    I'm glad my articles gave you some clarity on some things. Great to hear! Wow! We have so many similarities! I'm a Taurus, my wife is a Virgo, my mother was Aries and my father Libra! Wow! Interesting! Stay tuned to and may you continue to enjoy reading our articles.

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    Q: Too much sex drive. Hot sperm, premature ejaculation, stress, life problem, learning problems, and extreme anger, a general feeling of unwanted life situations. Feeling drained after sex acts without a partner and not satisfied with my life.


    I recommend the following for you:

    1. Total Male Cleanse
    2. Full Body Detox Companion

    After the Total Male Cleanse, perform the Full Body Detox.

    Read our "Articles" on Testicular Health, Male Prostate Problems, Infertility-Impotence-Sterility, etc.

    Thank you for your interest in Dherbs.Com!

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    Q: My partner is a diabetic. He can get an erection but doesn't think the erection is stiff enough and doesn't last long but he never lasted a long time anyway. He is 41. What do you recommend?



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    Q: The comment I have is about your topic on Islam and where it comes from. I would to like to know how did you come up with the information regarding Prophet Muhammad? I have been Muslim for a year and some change and Islam teaches us to study astrology and the zodiac signs Allah says in surah 85 in the English translation. I was shocked to read how the article dogs the prophet. I was shocked to read the statement about how the Catholics brought about Islam. I really like your concept about food and health I have brought some products from your company but the article really shook me up so if you could email back I would like to hear your humble opinion about this topic.


    To know what I know about Islam and Western religions one has to study all material and not be biased in reading and studying. Study Arab paganism, mythology, female studies, etc. and you'll discover that Islam, like Christianity, had pagan origins and it is not an accident that pre-Islamic history was covered up by the Muslims. before you had Koran you had Book of Kore. Her sacred day was Friday, the same day Jumah is on. her scared color was green, same color as the Qur'an. My article doesn't dog the prophet. You only feel this way because you are a follower of the prophet and your feelings and thoughts are biased as a Muslim. Do your homework, Good Brother! Ain't nothing sacred about Muhammad, Islam, etc. YOU are sacred! The human body is sacred! The Kabah represents you YOU! God did not speak to another man in order to convey a message to you. If God spoke to Muhammad God can speak to and through you. Religion is not from God but from man! This is a fact! Thanks for patronizing me! I am not a hater of Islam. I just speak facts and objective truth. I too was once a Muslim until I discovered the secrets about Islam and what the Arabs did to Africans long before Europeans did.