3 Holiday Expectations We Need To Let

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Turn on the television this time of year, and it’s easy to think that you can do and have everything — love, money, all your dreams come true — because it’s the holidays. It’s not that the holidays make things automatically better or easier (I’d argue the opposite) — the difference is we want it to be. And anyone selling anything during the holidays knows just what nerve to hit to sustain that expectation.

So there’s extra pressure to make sure that everything that does happen right around now is: emotionally resonant; beautifully decorated; perfectly timed; joyous; well-lit.

Well, no wonder your stress spikes right about now (mine, too). Our expectations are ridiculously high. Sometimes they’re not even fully articulated. Instead, they show up as outsized meltdowns over little things — the sibling who was snippy at dinner, the gingerbread cookies that have too much baking powder.

At meQuilibrium, we call these deep-rooted, age-old ideas about how the world should workiceberg beliefs. They’re called icebergs because only the tip is visible to your conscious mind. The rest lumbers under water, far out of awareness.

Holiday-themed icebergs can be especially devastating, as popular culture constantly reinforces high-stakes ideas about the season, like “Everyone loves each other at Christmas,” and “If I don’t get this holiday right, I’m failing my family.”

(Read more about coping with iceberg beliefs.)

The holidays do indeed have the potential to be a tender, happy time, when we lovingly share in each other’s joy. But rather than letting half-hidden beliefs and expectations govern how you feel, it’s worth your while to try rewriting these common old stories for yourself, so that you can love the holidays as they are, not how they should be.

Stressful Belief #1: My family should get along during the holidays. 
Maybe the family in question is your mother and father, or your children, or even your co-workers. But the need for people to treat each other and you well around the holidays can be intense, leaving you disappointed, resentful and hurt.

Try this: Seek out loving friendship. If this belief aligns with a core value for you, such as strong emotional connections, embrace it while trimming away some of the pain it creates. In this case, be proactive about filling the well of connection for yourself. In the midst of all the holiday parties, reach out to one or two good friends or family members and get a date on the calendar for a brunch, dinner, what have you. Or offer to help with a cookie-making marathon. The event doesn’t have to be special — your relationship is what will sustain you when your family squabbles over the turkey dinner again.

(Read more about how to boost your resilience including via powerful connections.)

Stressful Belief #2: I must make this the perfect holiday. 
Look deep enough and you probably can see the roots of this in childhood, when something along the lines of “If I do x, then my parents will love me,” was a powerful tool of control. Now, though, you’ve outgrown its usefulness. All this belief does now is drive you to distraction and keep you from appreciating the holidays you’ve actually got.

Try this: Catch your thoughts. If you find your mind starting to twitch for perfection, closely observe the tickertape of thoughts you’ve got going. Listen for key phrases like “I’m the only one who knows how to do it,” or “If I don’t get this done right, it will be ruined.” Notice how these thoughts feel, and then challenge them: Here I go again, treating Thanksgiving dinner like a death match. It doesn’t make sense in my life to do that anymore. Perfection isn’t the goal.

Then: Focus on your breath, letting it deepen and slow. Tuning into your physical sensations will keep you connected to the present moment — and melt the iceberg coming straight at you.

Stressful Belief #3. I should give — and get — the perfect gifts. 
Presents take on extraordinary weight this time of year, as if a chenille scarf or new smartphone can really express the depth and breadth of a person’s love. And even if you do craft the exquisite lavender-scented, silk-covered, organic buckwheat-filled eye pillow, there’s no guarantee the recipient will respond the way you want him to.

Try this: Aim for gratitude. The best way to handle unrealistic icebergs that you only run into in a very specific situation is to steer around them. In this case, set your sights on gratitude.

During shopping season, keep a gratitude journal and every morning (or evening), write down three to five things you’re grateful for. The morning before you open gifts, send a thank-you text message or email to someone who did something nice for you recently.

When you make gratitude a practice and express it to others, you shore up your own sense emotional well-being. Gift-giving can then be what it really is: a small sweet moment in a long, rich life.

By: Jan Bruce
Source: www.huffingtonpost.com

2013-12-06T11:03:33+00:00

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    Q: I think it is interesting that you spend a lot of time pushing your personal opinions and share limited advice. What do you understand about integrity and professionalism? Or even respect for others? I do not see it. If people are looking to you for help why do you spit on their problems? I was researching your site to help a client resolve their addiction to smoking. I have to say I was sadly disappointed to read your article. It is not helpful nor is it informative. In fact it enforces shame and negativity on those who seek help and positive life changes. I would hope you could restructure your article to benefit all. It would be beneficial to check out higher consciousness sites on herbal healing. I wish for you in this moment to find peace and resolve your anger and prejudice that is so apparent in your articles. Love, light and peace.

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    YOUR perception is not MY reality, Love. I am doing me and you do you. Tell you what: you do what I am failing to do or what you feel I am failing to do. This would be more appropriate. Pick up the ball where you deem it dropped. Talk is cheap and actions speak. I have done the actions and am doing them (read the reviews and testimonies on Dherbs.com). It speaks for itself. My new smoking article will reflect where I am presently, but it will still blast the ignorant cigarette smokers. One can't just blame government and the cigarette industry for the actions of the dumb cigarette smoker. Dumb and weak Americans must also foot partial blame, actually most of it, because they had a choice and there was no gun to their head forcing them to smoke. These people were simply weak and stupid and not to mention unconscious. Period! It doesn't sound nice but it's factual and truthful. I don't sugar coat the truth because sugar is a poison! The first article was written 6-7 years ago and that's why it's so brief. Thank you for visiting the #1 website in all-natural herbal products and raw uncompromising information that people all across the world are eating up and just can't get enough of.

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    Q: My question is regarding fibroids. I have been told I have had fibroids about the size of someone 3 months pregnant. I have been told there are two in clusters. They gave me the diameters, but I don't have that information at this time. My OB/GYN has told me he believes it is causing me to be slightly anemic. I have been trying some remedies on my own like more exercise and a change in diet. My primary physician does not recommend surgery she has me taking iron ferrous sulfate supplements twice per day to help with my iron count. It seems to be helping. The only problem I have with taking the iron supplements is that it sometimes causes constipation and I am normally pretty regular. I usually eliminate 2 times per day sometimes 3. My OB/GYN on the other hand keeps pushing for me to having surgery.& amp; nbsp; They had me take BC pills, however I took myself off of them because they made me sick. I took them only for 6 months. I'm 45 and have never taken BC pills ever and I don't want to start now. I've never been pregnant. I flow heavy on my 2nd and 3rd day heavy and after that it is manageable. My cycle has improved however I want to reduce the flow on those days if possible and of course dissolve the fibroid if at all possible. Doctors tell me they won't go away unless removed. I used to be on my cycle for 7 days and 4 of those days were heavy. Now I'm normally on for 4 days and only the 2nd and 3rd day are heavy. I know that as I reach menopause they may shrink in size, however I'm still aways off from that. I eat no red meat however I do eat fish and poultry. I eat a pretty good balance of vegetables and fruits, mostly raw and steamed. I drink lactaid milk. I don't eat much dairy except cheese and eggs occasionally. I do have a weakness, I love potato chips. I know this is not good. I can feel the fibroid get bigger when I eat them. When I stop for a period of time it decreases in size. At least I feel like it does. I'm not a sugar craver, however during the week before my cycle I'll crave sweets. I usually resist. I feel it's my diet that has caused the fibroids as well as every female in my family has had a hysterectomy due to fibroids. I think it is also hereditary as well. Whatever the case I'd like to know what regimen can you put me on that will help me? The goal is to reduce or dissolve the size of the fibroid so it is not affecting my iron level. I'm also starting to see my abdomen get bigger when I've always had a flat stomach. Perhaps this is me just getting older, however I think it's the fibroids. Constant low levels over time can't be good. I hope I have provided you enough information to give me your recommendation. If not please feel free to e-mail me for any additional information you need. I'm looking for a natural cure. Outside of this condition I'm in very good health. No problem with weight, high blood pressure or high cholesterol. I'm pretty athletic and active as well. Please advise. I look forward to your recommendation.

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    I remember just recently e-mailing you on this inquiry. Your diet MUST CHANGE! Consider full fledged RAW FOODS and VEGAN diet during your healing transition. Lactaid milk is HORRIBLE for you. Did you read our â€FIBROID TUMORS†article?????? You need to keep on performing FULL BODY DETOX followed by Fibroid Buster kit and regimen, back to back! Continuously! Detoxing must become a lifestyle for you! For iron, consider Dherbs.Com IRON PHOSPHATE FORMULA and MOON CYCLE FORMULA. Also, consider a telephone consultation because time is greatly limited in writing back in response to inquiries. There is much healing for you, Beloved!

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    Q: Hi Dherbs.com, My question is regarding fibroids. I have been told I have had fibroids about the size of someone 3 months pregnant. I have been told there are two in clusters. They gave me the diameters, but I don't have that information at this time. My OB/GYN has told me he believes it is causing me to be slightly anemic. I have been trying some remedies on my own like more exercise and a change in diet. My primary physician does not recommend surgery she has me taking iron ferrous sulfate supplements twice per day to help with my iron count. It seems to be helping. The only problem I have with taking the iron supplements is that it sometimes causes constipation and I am normally pretty regular. I usually eliminate 2 times per day sometimes 3. My OB/GYN on the other hand keeps pushing for me to having surgery. They had me take BC pills, however I took myself off of them because they made me sick. I took them only for 6 months. I'm 45 and have never taken BC pills ever and I don't want to start now. I've never been pregnant. I flow heavy on my 2nd and 3rd day heavy and after that it is manageable. My cycle has improved however I want to reduce the flow on those days if possible and of course dissolve the fibroid if at all possible. Doctors tell me they won't go away unless removed. I used to be on my cycle for 7 days and 4 of those days were heavy. Now I'm normally on for 4 days and only the 2nd and 3rd day are heavy. I know that as I reach menopause they may shrink in size, however I'm still always off from that. I eat no red meat however I do eat fish and poultry. I eat a pretty good balance of vegetables and fruits, mostly raw and steamed. I drink lactaid milk. I don't eat much dairy except cheese and eggs occasionally. I do have a weakness, I love potato chips. I know this is not good. I can feel the fibroid get bigger when I eat them. When I stop for a period of time it decreases in size. At least I feel like it does. I'm not a sugar craver, however during the week before my cycle I'll crave sweets. I usually resist. I feel it's my diet that has caused the fibroids as well as every female in my family has had a hysterectomy due to fibroids. I think it is also hereditary as well. Whatever the case I'd like to know what regimen can you put me on that will help me? The goal is to reduce or dissolve the size of the fibroid so it is not affecting my iron level. I'm also starting to see my abdomen get bigger when I've always had a flat stomach. Perhaps this is me just getting older, however I think it's the fibroids. Constant low levels over time can't be good. I hope I have provided you enough information to give me your recommendation. If not please feel free to e-mail me for any additional information you need. I'm looking for a natural cure. Outside of this condition I'm in very good health. No problem with weight, high blood pressure or high cholesterol. I'm pretty athletic and active as well. Please advise. I look forward to your recommendation. Also, how much per month will these products cost and how many months do the kits last? How do you recommend I buy them? By kit or individual? Thank you for your time!

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    I recommend you perform the FULL BODY DETOX kit followed by the FIBRIOD BUSTER CLEANSE AND REGIME. Perform them back to back. Take a break for about a month and perform both of them again. Six weeks on and six weeks off. While your off of these 2 kits, take individual formulas of IRON PHOSPHATE FORMULA, FIBRIOD BUSTER, and MOON CYCLE FORMULA. In re iron, you are taking POISON! The kind of iron you are taking is poisonous and mixes with sulfur in your body which creates constipation. I suggest Dherbs IRON PHOSPHATE FORMULA which is 100% all-natural with absolutely no adverse side effects! Also, you have to improve your diet. Nothing greatly causes fibroids than DAIRY PRODUCTS! The meat, potato chips, dairy, etc. is filling up your trashbags (tumors). Go VEGAN and RAW FOODS! Start reading some of our free health articles, i.e. â€FIBROID TUMORSâ€, â€WHAT IS RAW FOODSâ€, etc. Dherbs products can greatly help you and you'll see and/or feel the difference (as long as you don't cheat on your diet). There is much help for you!