How To Stop Fearing Loneliness

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Whether it’s loved ones, neighbors, colleagues, friends, acquaintances, or strangers, our days often consist of having to interact, to talk, to listen, and to give of ourselves, without any time alone. Sure, we enjoy, but often the result is that when we find ourselves in solitude, we get scared. It’s surprising how easy it is to go from being uncomfortable in a room alone to fearing that there’s no one to love us, and no one there to be a witness to our lives.

I had a friend who feared being alone. To avoid that discomfort, she was became a serial monogamist. never so much as pausing for a breath between boyfriends. With each new relationship, there was a tiny shift in her personality. It was obvious to see how she transformed a bit, depending on who she was dating. During that time, without any solitude, she lost sight of who she was.

The most important relationship we can foster is the one with ourselves.

Being human means we crave the love of people who understand us on our deepest levels. We crave complete acceptance with no judgment. And of course, being with others and interacting — even just through conversation — is one of the greatest pleasures in life.

Love and attention offer us comfort and peace. But solitude can be a blessing. You just have to choose to see it that way. Constant chatter, constant thinking, and constant back-and-forth conversation with others can drain us. We can get so consumed by others’ lives, wishes, hopes, and dreams that we may lose sight of our own. Sometimes when we sit with ourselves to think about a situation, it can be other people’s voices we hear rather than our own.

If we are not in tune with our minds, bodies, and spirits, we can eventually lose our way. That’s what happened to my friend. Eventually she realized she needed some time and space alone to rediscover herself. She learned more in that space about who she was and what she really wanted than she had in the years she had spent in all those relationships, never taking the time for herself.

Can being alone be lonely? Absolutely. But solitude can also be one of our greatest blessings. It gives us the space to process things happening around us, to think, to discover, and to feel our lives more fully. In solitude we often have long-needed epiphanies, come to terms with our lives, sort out dilemmas, and make clear-headed decisions. Providing or embracing solitude for ourselves makes us more energized for when we are with other people.

The next time you find yourself alone, ask how you can use this time to your advantage. Be mindful of the ways you can enjoy solitude so it brings you more peace and makes you more present.

Appreciate the gift of solitude by catching up on things you’ve been wanting to do — whether it’s personal projects or meditating in a relaxing space. You may even want to write a list of ideas so when the time presents itself, you are already prepared and less likely to feel despondent or lonely.

Recognize that there are different seasons in our lives. Some are meant to be quieter than others. We so often see solitude as this dark, isolated place that can drown us, but it can be a life preserver, a line thrown to our soul so it may rise and speak up amid the noise in our lives.

Solitude is the essence your soul needs to maintain balance and harmony. There is nothing to fear about that.

Source: www.mindbodygreen.com

2015-11-12T16:22:27+00:00

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    I recommend you perform the FULL BODY DETOX kit followed by the FIBRIOD BUSTER CLEANSE AND REGIME. Perform them back to back. Take a break for about a month and perform both of them again. Six weeks on and six weeks off. While your off of these 2 kits, take individual formulas of IRON PHOSPHATE FORMULA, FIBRIOD BUSTER, and MOON CYCLE FORMULA. In re iron, you are taking POISON! The kind of iron you are taking is poisonous and mixes with sulfur in your body which creates constipation. I suggest Dherbs IRON PHOSPHATE FORMULA which is 100% all-natural with absolutely no adverse side effects! Also, you have to improve your diet. Nothing greatly causes fibroids than DAIRY PRODUCTS! The meat, potato chips, dairy, etc. is filling up your trashbags (tumors). Go VEGAN and RAW FOODS! Start reading some of our free health articles, i.e. â€FIBROID TUMORSâ€, â€WHAT IS RAW FOODSâ€, etc. Dherbs products can greatly help you and you'll see and/or feel the difference (as long as you don't cheat on your diet). There is much help for you!

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    Q: My question is regarding fibroids. I have been told I have had fibroids about the size of someone 3 months pregnant. I have been told there are two in clusters. They gave me the diameters, but I don't have that information at this time. My OB/GYN has told me he believes it is causing me to be slightly anemic. I have been trying some remedies on my own like more exercise and a change in diet. My primary physician does not recommend surgery she has me taking iron ferrous sulfate supplements twice per day to help with my iron count. It seems to be helping. The only problem I have with taking the iron supplements is that it sometimes causes constipation and I am normally pretty regular. I usually eliminate 2 times per day sometimes 3. My OB/GYN on the other hand keeps pushing for me to having surgery.& amp; nbsp; They had me take BC pills, however I took myself off of them because they made me sick. I took them only for 6 months. I'm 45 and have never taken BC pills ever and I don't want to start now. I've never been pregnant. I flow heavy on my 2nd and 3rd day heavy and after that it is manageable. My cycle has improved however I want to reduce the flow on those days if possible and of course dissolve the fibroid if at all possible. Doctors tell me they won't go away unless removed. I used to be on my cycle for 7 days and 4 of those days were heavy. Now I'm normally on for 4 days and only the 2nd and 3rd day are heavy. I know that as I reach menopause they may shrink in size, however I'm still aways off from that. I eat no red meat however I do eat fish and poultry. I eat a pretty good balance of vegetables and fruits, mostly raw and steamed. I drink lactaid milk. I don't eat much dairy except cheese and eggs occasionally. I do have a weakness, I love potato chips. I know this is not good. I can feel the fibroid get bigger when I eat them. When I stop for a period of time it decreases in size. At least I feel like it does. I'm not a sugar craver, however during the week before my cycle I'll crave sweets. I usually resist. I feel it's my diet that has caused the fibroids as well as every female in my family has had a hysterectomy due to fibroids. I think it is also hereditary as well. Whatever the case I'd like to know what regimen can you put me on that will help me? The goal is to reduce or dissolve the size of the fibroid so it is not affecting my iron level. I'm also starting to see my abdomen get bigger when I've always had a flat stomach. Perhaps this is me just getting older, however I think it's the fibroids. Constant low levels over time can't be good. I hope I have provided you enough information to give me your recommendation. If not please feel free to e-mail me for any additional information you need. I'm looking for a natural cure. Outside of this condition I'm in very good health. No problem with weight, high blood pressure or high cholesterol. I'm pretty athletic and active as well. Please advise. I look forward to your recommendation.

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    I remember just recently e-mailing you on this inquiry. Your diet MUST CHANGE! Consider full fledged RAW FOODS and VEGAN diet during your healing transition. Lactaid milk is HORRIBLE for you. Did you read our â€FIBROID TUMORS†article?????? You need to keep on performing FULL BODY DETOX followed by Fibroid Buster kit and regimen, back to back! Continuously! Detoxing must become a lifestyle for you! For iron, consider Dherbs.Com IRON PHOSPHATE FORMULA and MOON CYCLE FORMULA. Also, consider a telephone consultation because time is greatly limited in writing back in response to inquiries. There is much healing for you, Beloved!

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    Q: First, I'd like to say that I love your product and if instructions are followed and lifestyle changes are made, your wonderful herbal products will greatly improve many lives. I am a witness to it and I thank you for the education. My question... Do you know where I can get quality Acai berry juice and other products? You help with this is greatly appreciated.

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    Thank you for that testimony, Beloved! Greatly appreciated. In re Acai Berry, look into Monie Vie (though mixed with other berries). Great product! Health food stores now sell Acai Berry juice (i.e. Knudsen). I purchase mine from Whole Foods Market. Pure 100% Acai Berry may be a little challenging to find though!

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    Q: Hello, I’ve used your FULL BODY DETOX, and continue to do so several times a year...It's amazing, thank you. I just read your March Newsletter and the "Question of the Month" was about head injuries & looking at your recommendations ( NERVES FORMULA, CENTRAL NERVOUS SYSTEM FORMULA, etc.), I'd like to know if this is something you would recommend for my brother. He recently had his second stroke about 7 months ago, lives in Dominican Republic, isn't getting the proper care and therapy, due to financial reasons. After the 1st stroke he was doing well, walking with a limp, didn't have use of his right arm, partial use of right leg, was learning to talk again. He progressed a lot. After the 2nd stroke he was bed-ridden, wearing diapers, couldn't swallow he was like a baby again. Now he's saying words, he's walking with a cane (very slowly); he's going to the bathroom on his own. He's slowly progressing. I live in CA & I was in Dominican Republic this past Christmas. It breaks my heart to see my brother this way. He's only 48 yrs old. I'd love to send him your products if they would help & not interferre with any medications he's taking. High Blood Pressure & Heart Disease run in my family. I strongly believe in your products, and at this point my brother needs a miracle. We stay positive. Another brother of mine takes care of him & is very positive. I have faith that he can heal quicker and enjoy life for many more years. So please advise what you'd recommend. Thank you so much for your time. Peace & Blessings

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    Our products will greatly help your brother but they will interfere with the medication that will cause more strokes in your brother because all medications are poisons - PERIOD! Herbs will fight against those poisons so as to heal him. Should you choose herbs from Dherbs, I recommend CEREBRAL-VASCULAR FORMULA, CIRCUL-AID FORMULA, VEINS FORMULA, and CENTRAL NERVOUS SYSTEM FORMULA. There is healing for your brother!

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    Q: Peace, Dherbs.com. I emailed earlier this year requesting advise on problems I've been having with both my stomach and bladder which are still persisting. Around 5 years ago I noticed that my stomach started to swell until it became fully distended and firm (almost like a round ball). I found this unusual because I have always had a very flat stomach and have always been very active, as well as, tried to maintain a good diet. However after consulting with several western doctors non seems to have a clue as to the cause of the problem. Although during one examination a urologist said he could feel a hard lump just under my right rib cage. I am currently due to have an 'endoscopy' but am running out of options if this procedure does not reveal or identify the problem. Regards my bladder, this problem started between 13-15 years old, I am now 36 years. The main problem is that a majority of the time I am unable to urinate normally. Instead it sometimes takes upto 2-3 mins for the bladder to release anything, even when I'm presse, also even when something does come out it's usually in trickles which stops and starts. There is no pain, but it is very frustrating. Also, I usually need to urinate at least once every hour even if I have not drunk any fluid for a long period of time. This tends to cause a big problem if I am not near a toilet for long periods of time, as I then have to hold myself, which can be very uncomfortable. I won't go on hopefully this info will be sufficient for a diagnosis or an idea as to what the problem may be. Either way, any insight that you may be able to help me with into these two issues will be greatly appreciated.

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    We would recommend the Full Body Cleanse and the Female Cleanse. Our Kidney-Bladder-Adrenals can also be helpful in remedying some of ther issues you are experiencing. Once you complete the cleanse, consume this formula to keep with the progress you've made.

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    Q: I have been experiencing very trying health issues for many years (over 25 years). The trouble began when my gall bladder was removed 26 years ago. I had mood swings, lack of energy, and severe diarrhea. Approximately 13 years ago I had an additional surgery for an umbilical hernia. Due to pre-op tests, my physician diagnosed me with thyroid disease and placed me on synthroid. This medication dramatically improved the digestive issues I had experienced for many years. I had very loose bowels when menstruating and when I was ill. I am overweight and have dealt with weight issues all my life. Three years ago I had a scare where I thought I experienced a heart attack. I spent three days in the hospital and learned of many health risks. My triglycerides were extremely high along with my sugar being borderline. I have been tested for diabetes on a number of occasions in my life but never show to be. There are numerous cases of diabetes in my family. My mother and one sister are insulin dependent and one other sister is on some form of pill medication for diabetes. At that time, I gave up sugar and began a regime at the gym. The have not eaten any sweets other than what I get in a little ketchup occasionally or some other kind of sauce that may contain some sugar. I have gone to the gym with minimal results in losing weight. I had a total hysterectomy six weeks ago. My regular GP has been on vacation and I've been dealing with one of her associates. This dr. sent me in for glucose tolerance and she has since diagnosed me as Type II Diabetic. She put me on a medication called "Metformin" and has me taking a 500 mg pill twice daily. I have only been on this medication for three days. I have been very careful to eat only what they say I can. I am experiencing the same issues as before with the diarrhea. Last night I was up all night with this and it is like water coming out of me. I am unable to find a physician who understands that I want to lose the weight, but cannot when I'm constantly dehydrated and feeling lethargic. When I have this constant problem, I am not able to do what I need to do for my overall health. Sorry to be so wordy but I wanted to explain the full extent of what I am experiencing. My friend told me to get on this website and explain my issues. He feels that you may be able to guide me in the direction of a natural product or products that can help me to have normal bowel movements and therefore begin doing the physical exercise that is needed for me to reduce my chances of becoming an insulin dependent diabetic.

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    I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO FIRST TRY THE FULL BODY DETOX (TAKING THINGS ONE DAY AT A TIME). AFTER THIS CLEANSE, I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO PERFORM THE PANCREAS CLEANSE AND REGIMEN . LET'S TAKE THIS SLOWLY AND GET YOU BACK TO OPTIMAL HEALTH AND WELL-BEING. FIRST THINGS FIRST, OKAY? ALSO, PLEASE CONSIDER A CONSULTATION AS THERE'S ONLY SO MUCH TIME I CAN GIVE TO RESPONDING VIA E-MAIL DUE TO ALL THE E-MAILS WE GET DAILY.YOU CAN HEAL. JUST CONCENTRATE ON HEALING, NOT DIABETES. LET'S START HERE, OKAY?

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    Q: I am a marathon runner, swimmer, and part time student. For my Entire Life since age 13 1/2, I?ve had either anorexia or bulimia, sometimes a bit of both. I am now 41. Yes, my teeth are hurting. Yes, I realize this is supposedly not optimal health, but I suppose my life has been so stressful for such a long time, that my eating 'disorder'edness has just been the coping mechanism that has kept me sane. Thing is, I realize I want to live a long, healthy life, and I need help. My thought is that a cleanse of some sort of toxins might really help me. Would you have any herbs to offer I could do that with, say, in tea form? Or any other sage. I really seriously hope you respond because I need help.

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    The Full Body Cleanse will greatly help your body to remove toxins.

    One of our teas you will want to drink daily is the Detox Tea, along with a number of other teas. Please check our online store for a full list.

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    Q: My aunt keeps returning to the emergency room because she can't breath. Each time I try to get her started on herbs (she's a diabetic, now on dialysis because a medication ruined her kidney - she wouldn't listen to me about herbs over the years) she somehow ends up in the hospital because she can't breath. I don't believe that it's the herbs (the four you recommend for diabetics). What can I do to help her clear up this problem so she won't end up at the hospital again? I'm afraid that she is going to blame it on the herbs, and she won't want to try anything anymore after today.

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    Flush her out with plenty of water. Have her drink herbal tea of Mullein Leaf, Boneset, and/or Fenugreek. You know, it sounds like the medication has really attacked her lungs. Also sounds like her eliminative channels are very, very weak! She should eat only raw fruits and vegetables and consume herbal tea to remove the obstruction that is preventing her from breathing. You know, Beloved, if she is afraid of herbs and not drugs she has the wrong mindset. Fear is negative and shuts down healing. Sometimes, there's only so much you can do to help a person. Some people have made up minds that they can't or won't heal and so there's really nothing you can do to help them.