Insecurity Ruining Your Relationship? How To Stop Before It Spirals Out Of Control

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By day three, I’d had it. I had become fully enraptured by my phone, staring at it every other minute, clicking through my various messaging apparatuses. The Inner Bitch starts firing off, curious at first: Is he going to text? Is he losing interest?

Then, she picks up steam: He’s over it. You said something weird. He probably thinks you’re insane for having pinkeye — you’re 29. He is probably with another girl. As I’ve said, my inner critic can be a real bitch.

I’ve been down this road before — the anxiety spiral caused by a new relationship that isn’t quite on solid footing just yet. It’s exciting and glorious one minute and confusing and terrifying the next.

I’m still getting to know this man, this interesting and handsome man, and still learning his quirks and triggers. And even though I know better by now than to let the fear take over, sometimes it slithers its way in and stares me right in the eyes, daring me to make a move. And so, I do.

Years ago, that move would have been self-destructive. I’d have gone into panic mode and started doing damage control. I’d have sent the funniest, brightest, and most “perfect woman” text I could think of. Followed by several more texts.

I would have written him off altogether, had a little too much to drink, and then asked why he hadn’t been in touch. I would have given in to the many negative narratives I’ve gathered over time from terrible dating advice books, TV shows, or people who were just as lost as I was.

Today, I know better. I know that this fear isn’t about him. It’s about me. It stems from where I am in this moment, and how I’m feeling about myself. Which means that fixing it is entirely on me too. Today, when I start to spiral into fear, I pick myself back up with these tools.

Here’s how to stop an insecurity spiral before it starts:

1. Get still.

Nine times out of ten, when I start into a fear spiral, it’s because I haven’t meditated that day. Meditation helps me calm my mind and separate my thought patterns from who I am.

If you allow yourself to be ruled by fear, you’re agreeing to the opposite premise: That your thoughts are who you are and that they need to be addressed immediately. The first thing I do when I notice I’m freaking out about the lack of communication from a dude is sit down, get quiet, and meditate.

2. Examine the facts.

Once my mind is clear, I take stock of the facts of the situation. And I do mean the facts. Nothing that could be considered an opinion is allowed here. There is no room for anxious interpretation.

In my case, for example, the facts are this: Man is out of town for the weekend at a wedding. Man texted me yesterday to ask how my weekend was going. The last time I saw him I really enjoyed it. He said he wanted to see me again when he was back.

When you look at the facts, as they are, you are grounding yourself in the present rather than in past narratives or future hopes. New relationships struggle when we put too much pressure on immediacy. “I need to know where this is going right now” can be replaced with “I’m okay where I’m standing today.” It’s good here in the present. You don’t have a time bomb on your shoulder.

3. Check in with yourself.

What’s going on within you today that might be causing the anxiety? In my case, I was exhausted from a long weekend upstate with friends with little sleep. I might also have been a little bit hungover. On top of that, I hadn’t exercised in a few days and was starting to let negative self-talk about my body creep in.

Once you’ve identified your feelings, ask yourself what you really think is causing them. Is it one missing text message, or is it the way you’ve been talking to yourself for the past few hours? Is this more about you not liking yourself than someone else not liking you? The answer was pretty clear in my case, and I’d bet it is in yours, too.

4. Practice self-care.

Rather than taking action against your significant other, focus your energy and attention on yourself. Do something that makes you feel good and taken care of, whether it’s cooking yourself a good meal, journaling, exercising, meditating, or having a long chat with a friend. Focus on shifting from self-doubt to self-love. Bring yourself back to the beautiful equilibrium you feel when you’re doing the things that make you feel confident and strong. You’ve got this.

5. Revisit the situation.

Once you’re feeling more balanced and present, revisit the situation. Ask yourself if you need to take any action, based on how you’re feeling now. Does this situation still feel as urgent? If it does, then you can address it confidently.

You’re in the ideal head space for a productive conversation. If not, continue treating yourself with love and see what happens. And if you’re like me, he’ll text you right after you finish your self-care. That’s how strong vibrations are.

 

2015-12-03T13:13:36+00:00

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    Greetings! Wow! Adorable, precious little baby. Kudos to you and the family! Beloved, trust in Nature. Every body, and every baby is different. The baby will release when he/she is ready to release. My recent son didn't release until 2-3 days later. However, he eventually released. Babies are not on our worldly time schedule. We shouldn't hold them to our worldly expectations, because then we start to think something is wrong (with them), and start worrying which is unhealthy. Just show the love! That's it! Nature got this!!! I have a new e-book "The Complete Home-Birth Guidebook" you will find of great assistance with your post-natal process and period. Great information for you in it! Peace and love!

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    That's an unfortunate situation. Have the mother read the information on Dherbs.com or schedule a consultation so she can speak with me live and direct. These are the only ways I know to help, Beloved. I'm also about to write an article on DEPRESSION, and the DANGERS OF ANTIDEPRESSANTS. Hang in there and know that your cousin wrote her own life script (before she was born), so she is gaining an experience so as to learn a life lesson for her soul's purpose. It doesn't make sense on a lower level, but on a higher level, it all will add up and make sense. God's hand is over everything, even those things that appear bad.

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    The person perhaps shouldn't even consider Gingko due to the fear which is damnable. When people are in fear I usually tell them to do what makes them feel good, and remove the fear because if a person does something in the face of fear and a bad reaction occurs, the fear won't get the blame. The herb or other natural thing will. However, for blood thinning effects of Gingko Biloba, take 9-12 capsules throughout the day, i.e. 3 capsules every 3-4 hours.

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    Q: I read your article on Dangerous Dairy, and I cannot find on the internet any back up on what is discussed about dairy. Example, fecal matter (like milk), if this is not real fecal matter. What are you talking about? It is also stated that no other animals will drink other animals milk. This is not so, there are reports of baby animals, that lose their mothers and another species steps in to save the baby animals life. A dog saving a baby tigers life. A squirrel saving a pigs life, etc. It is a known fact that we have been eating dairy products for over 8,0000 years. I know that times have changed, but where are your facts were are you getting these facts to report such cause and effect? I would like to see this facts or websites. Thank you.

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    Your problem may be the Inter-net. You can't be an exclusive Inter-net armchair researcher and expect to find everything, such as the information in my article. We can't give up on BOOKS for a computer screen!

    Everything I cover in my article can be scientifically backed up.

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    A:

    Have you read the 2 health articles on hair ("HAIR PROBLEMS" and "BLACK HAIR, NAPPY HAIR")? If not, please read these articles for remedy and recourse. Also, read our article "SKIN DISORDER = BLOOD DISORDER"."

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    Q: I am very sensitive. I feel like there are invisible things entering my body. I feel things going into my feet, my crown, my female parts the openings of my body. I keep having serious lung problems. I saw something dark jump into my chest. I feel it moving thru my body, like a snake. I have been checked for parasites but nothing was found. I had all types of x-rays and blood tests done, but nothing found. I am of sound mind and strong in my faith. I sometimes see brown or white oil spots on my car and on the ground where I walk. By the time I past this I begin to have these sensations. I believe this is a bacteria by nature or man that is causing this problem. I went for acupuncture for the problem the Chinese man said something was in my body. Have you heard of this problem before? Do you think you can help me? Thank you for taking the time to read this.

    A:

    Spiritual healing and cleansing are my areas of expertise! Please consider a consultation ($100, 1-hour). There is much you can do to heal from these attached entities that have entered your body via your chakras. Your feet have chakras, your vagina has a chakra, and your crown has a chakra. No coincidence you feel things going on in these chakra centers. I can help you! There's nothing to worry about. Every problem has a solution or answer. Please call 866-434-3727 or 323-817-9929 to schedule.

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    Q: I have a child and she will be nine this year. I have not been able to get pregnant since then, both partners I tried with; have gotten other females pregnant so why is it taking me such a long time to conceive another child. I’ve been on birth controls before and just stop because they where making my body feel weird so what would you suggest that I do about the situation.

    A:

    TIME TO REBOOT YOUR FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM. FIRST, DETOXIFY YOUR BODY (FULL BODY DETOX) NEXT, PERFORM THE TOTAL WOMAN CLEANSE. LASTLY, PERFORM THE FERTILITY CLEANSE. YOUR THOUGHTS SHOULD BE DOMINATED BY THOUGHTS OF PREGNANCY. VISUALIZE YOURSELF PREGNANT. AFFIRM YOUR FERTILITY THROUGHOUT THE DAY. USE YOUR MIND TO ACHIEVE YOUR DESIRES!

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    Q: You gave me a remedy for a lot of things. But the one I need the most is something to control this high blood pressure. My doctors are at a stand still. They don't know what is causing it and they damn sure don't know how to treat it. I feel like a walking time bomb. Please recommend me something, I needed it last week. I want to order something now for the blood pressure. To give you an idea my last reading today was 191/125 that is better than last week reading.

    A:

    Take 3 capsules of Cardiovascular Formula twice daily and drink one 4-ounce cup of celery and apple juice twice daily.

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    Q: I am a 29 year old African American female. I would like to tell you my story and get your advice. Before Sept. 28, 2008 I was a healthy fun loving female but after sept. 28th my health has not been the same. I wake up in the morning weak with nausea and headaches. I went to Kaiser and they said I had a virus and I had to let it take its course. I work with kids and it was hard for me to go back to work because 1. I kept getting sick. 2. My boss was mad that I was sick and not able to work. So I went back to Kaiser and then they said I was sick and had a virus with a mix of anxiety(due to my boss going crazy on me). They said I need to rest and stop being anxious, so I can heal.(well the anxiety is gone) Next I started to get sharp pains in my stomach area(which I have had before on and off for the past couple of years but it would only happen like once or twice a year) but I was scared because the pains we're very sharp and happening like two weeks apart. So Kaiser told me to go see a Upper GI Dr. I went to see one and had an endoscopy done and they found a yeast infection in my throat and that also my esophagus was irritated to but my stomach looked fine. So they put me on Prontiox (for the irritated esophagus and Difucan (for the yeast infection). Well as soon as I finished the medication for the yeast infection in my esophagus, I lost my voice and could not talk for 4-5 days and I still have the stomach pains. So the Upper GI dr. told me the sore throat and losing my voice was a side effect to GERD and that is what I may have. So he asked to up the dose of the Prontiox (so now I am taking 80 mg instead of 40 mg a day). But guess what still having stomach pains and my voice still goes in and out and it feels like something is stuck in my throat and now when I eat, I feel food get stuck in my chest like right in the middle of my breast. So what is going on with me...they have done blood work on me from blood count to checking me for STD's (even HIV) and everything came back normal/negative. And they keep saying all my blood work is healthy...So what is going on and what can I take, because I am a natural person and my system is sensitive to a lot of stuff and I don’t like being on these medications. And now the DRs may think I have IBS..Oh boy Help!! And oh yeah I have had very bad cramps when I have my period and take Motrin and I would like to know is there anything I can take that is sensitive to my stomach... HELP

    A:

    Beloved, first perform the FULL BODY DETOX. Next, perform TOTAL WOMAN CLEANSE, and lastly, perform the 10-DAY SUPREME COLON CLEANSE. These kits will repair your system!

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    Q: I recently went to the hospital and I thought I had the virus in the hospital the nurses were very negative towards me. I was given bad medication and as a result I had all the symptoms of the virus when I left the hospital and I am still testing negative and I feel like they have given me bad meds to try to kill me. I don't look the same every time I drink something that has acid in it, it makes my skin turn red and now when I go out I feel that everyone with the virus know what the hospital has done to me people just laugh knowing that the hospital nurse gave me a HIV cocktail. What can I do? I have been to the doctor numerous times and it seems like every thing I touch has germs and it’s getting inside of my body. I was treated really unfair. Now in the community where I live also.

    A:

    IF THEY DID SLIP YOU A HIV COCKTAIL, HERE'S WHAT I SUGGEST: PERFORM THE FULL BODY DETOX AND DRINK DETOX TEA WHILE DETOXING. YOU SHOULD BE FINE AFTER THIS. FOCUS ON POSITIVE THOUGHTS ONLY. NO NEGATIVE THINKING!

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    Q: For the past week or so, I've been having short instances of feeling drunk, and I haven't had an alcoholic beverage in several months. It's similar to deja vu but more like a feeling of brief intoxication. I started the TOTAL WOMAN CLEANSE yesterday and I'm on day 2. It seems the frequency has increased throughout the day. Do you know what may be causing this?

    A:

    We'd need to conduct an interview for me to get to the root of the matter. Consider a consultation. After your TOTAL WOMAN CLEANSEit would be in your best interest to perform the FULL BODY DETOX to reboot your system. You're off somewhere in your body.