The Incredible Power of Compliments

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Receiving a sincere compliment can have a huge impact on your outlook. The message may surprise you, touch your heart, or catapult you forward into a new career path. The most powerful compliment communicates the message, “I value you.” Here are my tips on delivering an authentic compliment:

    • Be specific. I was recently walking out of the grocery store and complimented a well-dressed elderly woman on her colorful blouse. She stopped in her tracks and excitedly said, “Oh, thank you! I recently lost my husband and I was just praying for a sign on whether I should stay in this neighborhood, or move to another city to be closer to my daughter. Your smile caught my attention and when you mentioned my favorite orange blouse, I got my answer.” While I’m not sure of her final decision to stay or leave, our friendly exchange was exactly what she needed at that particular moment in time. Mentioning her orange blouse was the key. Had I not been specific, the experience, and outcome, may have been different.

 

    • A single compliment may be all it takes. One simple act can make a difference. I recently overheard a story about a person who was interested in helping out a man in need. Willing to offer assistance financially, he asked the man what he truly needed. The disadvantaged man replied, “I’d really like a handshake.” Sometimes the greatest compliment you can give another human being is to acknowledge them and let them know they are significant.

 

 

    • Wear your compliment like a badge of honor. When nothing seems to be going right, dig deep into your emotional pocket and pull out a past compliment that has helped define who you are today. One that made a significant difference in my life was a compliment I received when I was much younger, working at a “beeper store.” I was an underpaid, overworked counter girl, in charge of “trouble shooting technology,” aka replacing old batteries from business people’s beepers. I was unhappy at my new job, but afraid to make a change. One day my boss aggressively walked up to the counter, and in front of three businessmen barked, “You are not what this pager company needs.” One of the men standing at the counter firmly spoke up, “He’s right, Diane… you are meant for much more than this.” I was struck by his kindness and his positive support in the face of my public humiliation. Instantly, I felt empowered. I hugged a perfect stranger, got my purse, walked out and never looked back. A strong compliment can last a lifetime.

 

 

    • Be impeccable with your words and generous with your praise. There is an obvious difference between a genuine remark and a thoughtless statement meant to patronize or falsely elevate. While you may want to say something nice to another person, find something that is genuine to comment on. When your colleague does a great job on an important project, compliment them on their success. If your competitor got the job over you, send a note of congratulations. Drop your guard, put down your competitive armor, and give yourself permission to revel in someone else’s success. Make your words strong and reliable.

 

 

    • A compliment is good manners. Your mother taught you if you don’t have something nice to say, say nothing at all. But, why not find something positive in every situation and give kudos to those that made the experience possible? Looking at the glass half empty isn’t as rewarding as looking at the glass half full.

 

  • Don’t miss an opportunity. While working on my master’s degree, I interned at an Alzheimer’s Day Center. I was in charge of attending to a particular client, his name was LC, and most of the time he was not lucid. But, occasionally, he was alert and able to communicate fascinating stories with amazing details from his youth. I was particularly struck by LC’s gentle eyes and kind smile. Even though I wasn’t sure he would understand, I often thought of thanking him for sharing his life with me. Unfortunately, I always second-guessed myself and felt awkward or embarrassed. One day I decided to say, “LC, you have made an impact on my life by sharing your stories with me.” To which he promptly and clearly replied, “Thank you. I am doing the best I can.” His eyes filled with tears as he grabbed my hand, held on tight, and smiled the most beautiful smile I have ever seen. He understood. That experience changed my world. Whose world could you change if you seized the occasion?

A compliment wields great possibility. It shows respect, admiration, approval, gratitude, trust, appreciation, and hope. One of the most generous things you can do in your life is to give someone else a true and meaningful compliment. I encourage you to start with the next person you encounter.

By: Dianne Gottsman
Source: www.huffington.com

2014-04-07T11:48:40+00:00

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    I apologize for the very delayed response, we have been experiencing technical difficulties.  I first would like to commend you on your ability to prioritize in such an effective manner.  Your life sounds like one lived in great service to  and love of others.  However, it is also VERY important that you receive energy from others so that you do not become too imbalanced.  Balance in life is crucial in all things (spiritual, physical, cognitive, relational etc).

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    This communication does not constitute a client/coach relationship.  This is for information purposes only.

    Life is simply beautiful! 

    Enjoy your Self!

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    Orange or yellowish hands or feet denote TOXICITY. The body is toxic, especially the liver and needs to be cleansed periodically. Give the FULL BODY DETOX a try! Soak your hands in hot water (as hot as you can bear it) and 1 box of sea salt for about 30 minutes daily. I had this problem some years ago. I was going through times, had been through so much. I went and got a manicure one day and the Asian lady could read palms and told me I needed to relax. I had been doing everything by myself for a long time in life and needed to rest. She kept emphasizing rest. While this was true, my body also needed to detox. The anger in me at certain people and certain circumstances was stored in my liver (the liver stores anger). But in order to start a new life and live life anew, I had to work on my LIVE-R.

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    Q: Hello, I’ve used your FULL BODY DETOX, and continue to do so several times a year...It's amazing, thank you. I just read your March Newsletter and the "Question of the Month" was about head injuries & looking at your recommendations ( NERVES FORMULA, CENTRAL NERVOUS SYSTEM FORMULA, etc.), I'd like to know if this is something you would recommend for my brother. He recently had his second stroke about 7 months ago, lives in Dominican Republic, isn't getting the proper care and therapy, due to financial reasons. After the 1st stroke he was doing well, walking with a limp, didn't have use of his right arm, partial use of right leg, was learning to talk again. He progressed a lot. After the 2nd stroke he was bed-ridden, wearing diapers, couldn't swallow he was like a baby again. Now he's saying words, he's walking with a cane (very slowly); he's going to the bathroom on his own. He's slowly progressing. I live in CA & I was in Dominican Republic this past Christmas. It breaks my heart to see my brother this way. He's only 48 yrs old. I'd love to send him your products if they would help & not interferre with any medications he's taking. High Blood Pressure & Heart Disease run in my family. I strongly believe in your products, and at this point my brother needs a miracle. We stay positive. Another brother of mine takes care of him & is very positive. I have faith that he can heal quicker and enjoy life for many more years. So please advise what you'd recommend. Thank you so much for your time. Peace & Blessings

    A:

    Our products will greatly help your brother but they will interfere with the medication that will cause more strokes in your brother because all medications are poisons - PERIOD! Herbs will fight against those poisons so as to heal him. Should you choose herbs from Dherbs, I recommend CEREBRAL-VASCULAR FORMULA, CIRCUL-AID FORMULA, VEINS FORMULA, and CENTRAL NERVOUS SYSTEM FORMULA. There is healing for your brother!

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    Q: I am about to purchase the ANTI-VIRAL CLEANSE AND REGIMEN and was thinking about purchasing a few other products to expedite and increase the effectiveness of my healing process. To accompany the ANTI-VIRAL CLEANSE AND REGIMEN I was thinking about also purchasing the â€VENEREAL BUSTERâ€, ANTI-VIRAL TEA, MALE HEALTH TEA, PARASITE AND WORM TEA, ANTI VIRAL EXTRACT, and the PARASITE AND WORMS ELIMINATOR EXTRACT. Do you think using these other products would compliment the Anti Viral Kit and not reduce its effectiveness? Also, since I am making a large purchase, do you offer any type of discounts for these types of purchases? Male Health tea, Parasite & Worm tea, Anti-Viral (extract), and the Parasite & Worms Eliminator (extract).

    A:

    Yes they will! Just don't take the capsule formulas (â€VENEREAL BUSTER†and ZINC PHOSPHATE while taking the 6 formulas of the ANTI-VIRAL CLEANSE AND REGIMEN). Wait until you're done to take these 2 formulas. Everything else you can take during the ANTI-VIRAL CLEANSE AND REGIMEN).

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    Q: I've been taking classes on how to be more responsible for myself naturally because, my Naturopath became a burden to my pocket. I have no insurance, and I don't make a great deal of money as a massage therapist. Visits were at least every six weeks. He did more talking (irrelavant to my case) than evaluating. The supplements I could find (same brand) for at least 1/2 the price elsewhere, but was left to trusting him for my first supply. I wasn't even sure why I was taking some of them. I've been reading as many of your articles as I can, in order to get a clue about what's best for me. YOUR GREAT! But there are times when I feel I need expert advice on how my body feels. Though I felt taken advantage of by my Naturopath. Can you give me an idea on how to ID a good one on this side of the world? What would be a typical intake? Price?

    A:

    Hmmm! Intake, Price? That's going to vary! The best way to determine anything is based upon your intuition (energy). A good ND listens to you! Their price is pretty economical, or they will work with you to help you out financially. They don't push their products on you, they just inform you on what you need. They let you know you have free will and choice! A good ND will allow you to ask questions and give you answers that suffice your questions.

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    Q: I am on day 17 of the Full Body Detox. It has been wonderful, although I have slipped up and made some bad food choices I have been able to stick to eating salads and Fruit and nuts. I have lost 5 pounds overall. I have Cogan's Syndrome. I stopped taking my azathioprine, Iron pill, and fish oils while on the Detox. I feel great aside from my Tinnitus in my left ear is ringing tremendously loud. Other than that I feel great. My skin looks so much better. My prednisone steroid hump in my back has gone away. My teeth look whiter. My eyes are whiter. Blemishes are gone. I just don't know what to do after I am done with this detox. I know that I need to continue with this particular diet because it is good to & for me. I can do that, however I just don't want to have low iron, tinnitus, or vertigo spells. What would you recommend I take after the full body cleanse. My mother has seen a difference in me and so has my husband. I love this, I can't wait to see my rheumatologist so he can tell me that my Cogan's Syndrome is in remmission. What should I do next?

    A:

    Thank you for sharing this with us. We're so happy to hear that the cleanse is going well for you. We suggest trying the Ear Oil to help bring relief from tinnitus. You can also try the Joint Aid and the MSM Sulfur to help specifically help address arthritis. If you're experiencing eye issues from Cogan's Syndrome we suggest using the Eye Formula. Continuing with a balanced diet is best as it is responsible for some of the success you were able to achieve with the cleanse. We suggest consuming two raw meals a day and one of your choice to help continue the healing process.

    Please take the time to read the article:

    Arthritis-http://www.dherbs.com/articles/causes-arthritis-34.html

    Product Links:

    MSM Sulfur -http://www.dherbs.com/store/msm-sulfur-p-49.html

    Joint Formula - http://www.dherbs.com/store/f-formula-p-42.html

    Eyes Formula -http://dherbs.com/store/eyes-formula-p-28.html

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    Q: This question is in regard to my 1 yr. old daughter. This morning she grabbed a boiling hot cup of water down from the kitchen table and now has a 2nd degree burn on her chest. She has a big open wound where the skin came off on her chest. I do not vaccinate my child and the nurses were trying to urge me to give her a tetanus shot which I refused. They mentioned it was a vaccine which was for pertussis as well which I did not really understand. So my question is, what would u recommend I give her to keep infection away? I am taking her to a burn center tomorrow for them to check it and show me how to and how often to dress it. I plan to put silver water on the bandage to help the healing process as well. I plan to do a detox for her soon since they gave her morphine for pain and also she has had a lot of mucus and congestion lately due to her teething. Thank you in advance and thank u for this BEAUTIFUL website I am so blessed to have come across your products, I plan to promote them within my business I have already been directing my clients here (I'm a natural stylist).

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    Make sure you put aloe vera gel on the damaged skin of the child daily. Aloe is very calming and healing. To prevent infection, rub shea butter on the skin daily. Shea is very good for skin healing. Calendula gel (from a health food store) is also very therapeutic. The OZ OIL from Dherbs would be the best healing agent due to the oxygen in it. Alternate between the above oil, gel, and butter. Don't worry too much about the situation. Focus on healing and moving forward. The child will be alright! Peace, Love and Healing!

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    Q: I am writing you with concern for my father. He is 54 years old, and was just diagnosed with an enlarged heart. He is very worried, and to be honest I am too. I told him that he immediately needs to go on the Full Body Detox. Start a raw foods diet that includes no meats, and no dairy. Do you think he should get a colonic? Should he get it first? He began running this morning, and has been walking in the evenings. He has a HUGE stomach. It looks as if he is about 8 months pregnant. SOLID! We live in the Philadelphia Area and we are Muslim. The only person we know that is GOOD as far as colonics is a female, and he has some reservations about that. My mother always says "Do what you gotta do". What steps should he take to heal his body? In what order? I know it may be kind of hard to diagnose, or give steps to a third person. I am really concerned, and afraid that his concern may cause more damage to his heart. I am almost certain that my father would not mind talking to you. He may be impressed with your knowledge. All the herbalist we know thus far have been women. As soon as he told us of his illness I immediately thought of you. I pray that you can help us. We all as a family need to get our health together. PLEASE HELP US the best way you can. . . . .

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    It's the easiest thing to take care of. Detox the body with the Full Body Detox followed by the 10-Day Electric Greens Cell Food Cleanse. He will drink Hearty Heart tea during both cleanses. The man has eaten himself into this condition via poor diet so reversed diet is the way out. More raw foods (fruits and vegetable), vegetable juice.

    Product Links:
    Full Body Detox
    10-Day Electric Greens Cell Food Cleanse
    Hearty Heart Tea

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    Q: Can you tell me what to give my 5 year old twins daughters and 3 year old son to help support their immune system? I don't immunize them, but want to make sure that their resistance is built up. Thanks so much and continued success. I did not know that you were so funny!!! Thank you for your words, Beloved! Much obliged! Greatly!

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    I would say to put your children on the RAINFOREST TONIC TEA, letting them drink one cup per day. The VITAMIN C FORMULA is something I would also suggest for your children's immune system as well. Peace and Love! I appreciate you very much, Beloved!

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    Q: I recently purchased the FULL BODY DETOX and ANTI-VIRAL CLEANSE AND REGIMEN. I totally understand that healing is holistic and that changes must occur in diet, lifestyle, and only positive thinking will result in optimal health. I am noticing balding on the right side of my head. Of all the hair care products provided by dherbs.com, I was curious to know if using any of the dherbs.com hair herbs would affect the detox/cleansing regime? If not which would be the most effective in assisting me with hair loss? (Due to financial limitations I can't afford to purchase them all because I just purchased an alkaline water machine that set a brother back)Aside from performing the anti-viral cleanse regime. I eat plenty of cilantro and parsley, drink half my body weight in alkaline water daily, and eliminate stressors out of my life. I was interested in knowing what other follow up actions can I take to help assist me in overcoming this trial (virus) that has changed my life for the better.

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    You have the right attitude and spirit! Kudos to you. For the hair inquiry, you can drink the HAIR-SKIN-NAILS TEA during your detox. In re additional pointers, work on your mind-reprogramming it. Use daily affirmations! Reinvent yourself. Meditate! Perform yoga! perform the "SEA SALT SOAKS" daily! Keep getting knowledge! Just be creative and follow!