The Power of Vulnerability

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I recently received the following question from a reader, “I know vulnerability is a good way to be, but I find it difficult. The moment I notice that feel I lost control of a situation, rather than keep feeling vulnerable, I move away from it. For example, when I am with people I date, rather than discussing my feelings, admitting my imperfections, or letting my faults show themselves, I am more often concerned with looking as perfect as I can be and engage in more superficial conversations.”

Why does vulnerability feel so scary and awkward sometimes?

Most of us can relate to times when we expressed an emotion and it was not received well, so we develop suppression techniques. In this reader’s case, she realized that her parents expected her to have her stuff together and be a good example because she is an eldest child. Emotion was looked down upon, and keeping it together was rewarded.

Although it may seem like we are protecting ourselves, suppressing our expression erects walls around our hearts and reinforces beliefs about it not being safe to share our genuine feelings with another. As a result, we form relationships that are based more on fear than love. Rather than being truly authentic with others, we become strategic. Vulnerability is discounted because it just feels too risky.

But we cannot truly experience the delicious emotions that a relationship offers if we are not authentic. I invite you to read the word “intimacy” as “into-me-see.” We create intimacy with others when we allow ourselves to be seen. Vulnerability is our way to break patterns of avoiding being truly seen for fear of how we will be received. If you are protecting and guarding yourself, you are unavailable for intimacy. And if you are unavailable for intimacy, then you will most likely attract unavailable people!

If you crave true intimacy, here are some tips for how to be vulnerable:

1. Choose wisely. 
Vulnerability is tender and deserves TLC. Begin practicing vulnerability with someone who will not judge you, advise you, or attempt to interrupt your process. This person can be a dear friend, family member, mentor, coach or counselor, who will receive the gift of your vulnerability with compassion.

2. Ask for what you want. 
I encourage you to create the context for sharing an authentic conversation by asking if the other person is willing to just listen. You can also request that they do not offer any advice unless you specifically ask for it. The purpose of vulnerability is not about problem solving. It is about exposing and releasing.

3. State what is.
If you feel nervous or perhaps even ashamed, I suggest calling it out by stating, “I feel ashamed,” or, “I am nervous to share this.” Remember the key ingredients of vulnerability are authenticity and intimacy. Let yourself be seen!

4. Share from your heart, not your head. 
Be aware of not recycling your emotions by just talking about them, judging them or analyzing them (read more about this here). Let yourself cry. Ride waves of anger or frustration by not restraining your voice or editing your words.

5. Shine light on shame. 
Tell the secrets you have locked away because you’ve been too ashamed to speak them aloud.

6. Let yourself be messy. 
Forget about grammar, making sense or looking pretty while you cry. Be free with your expression!

Please do not underestimate the healing power of vulnerability. Don’t let fear stop you when it comes to being raw and real with others. To fully feel the love and connection we all yearn for, vulnerability is required. Think of someone you feel very close to. There have been times when you have shared a feeling with that person that felt risky to expose, yet when it was received with love, rather than judgment, your relationship got stronger. Vulnerability connects us. It is a great gift we give to another person when we let them see behind any masks or walls of emotional protection. Moreover, vulnerability is a priceless gift to give to ourselves.

By: Christine Hassler
Source: www.huffington.com

2014-01-27T12:21:41+00:00

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    Q: I know you are an herbalist and I have read your articles on relationships, but I really need to discuss an issue with a conscious person like yourself. I have a friend who is a conscious brother, he made it known that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, claims he's to busy, but he is into having a spiritual sexual relationship(releasing energy he says on a spiritual level). My thought is that in order to connect with someone totally on a sexual level they should be a unit to experience this sacred sexual experience he refers to, otherwise to me it seems a very clever why to have sex without the commitment of being in a relationship. I would really appreciate your thoughts.

    A:

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    Q: Hi Dherbs.com, My question is regarding fibroids. I have been told I have had fibroids about the size of someone 3 months pregnant. I have been told there are two in clusters. They gave me the diameters, but I don't have that information at this time. My OB/GYN has told me he believes it is causing me to be slightly anemic. I have been trying some remedies on my own like more exercise and a change in diet. My primary physician does not recommend surgery she has me taking iron ferrous sulfate supplements twice per day to help with my iron count. It seems to be helping. The only problem I have with taking the iron supplements is that it sometimes causes constipation and I am normally pretty regular. I usually eliminate 2 times per day sometimes 3. My OB/GYN on the other hand keeps pushing for me to having surgery. They had me take BC pills, however I took myself off of them because they made me sick. I took them only for 6 months. I'm 45 and have never taken BC pills ever and I don't want to start now. I've never been pregnant. I flow heavy on my 2nd and 3rd day heavy and after that it is manageable. My cycle has improved however I want to reduce the flow on those days if possible and of course dissolve the fibroid if at all possible. Doctors tell me they won't go away unless removed. I used to be on my cycle for 7 days and 4 of those days were heavy. Now I'm normally on for 4 days and only the 2nd and 3rd day are heavy. I know that as I reach menopause they may shrink in size, however I'm still always off from that. I eat no red meat however I do eat fish and poultry. I eat a pretty good balance of vegetables and fruits, mostly raw and steamed. I drink lactaid milk. I don't eat much dairy except cheese and eggs occasionally. I do have a weakness, I love potato chips. I know this is not good. I can feel the fibroid get bigger when I eat them. When I stop for a period of time it decreases in size. At least I feel like it does. I'm not a sugar craver, however during the week before my cycle I'll crave sweets. I usually resist. I feel it's my diet that has caused the fibroids as well as every female in my family has had a hysterectomy due to fibroids. I think it is also hereditary as well. Whatever the case I'd like to know what regimen can you put me on that will help me? The goal is to reduce or dissolve the size of the fibroid so it is not affecting my iron level. I'm also starting to see my abdomen get bigger when I've always had a flat stomach. Perhaps this is me just getting older, however I think it's the fibroids. Constant low levels over time can't be good. I hope I have provided you enough information to give me your recommendation. If not please feel free to e-mail me for any additional information you need. I'm looking for a natural cure. Outside of this condition I'm in very good health. No problem with weight, high blood pressure or high cholesterol. I'm pretty athletic and active as well. Please advise. I look forward to your recommendation. Also, how much per month will these products cost and how many months do the kits last? How do you recommend I buy them? By kit or individual? Thank you for your time!

    A:

    I recommend you perform the FULL BODY DETOX kit followed by the FIBRIOD BUSTER CLEANSE AND REGIME. Perform them back to back. Take a break for about a month and perform both of them again. Six weeks on and six weeks off. While your off of these 2 kits, take individual formulas of IRON PHOSPHATE FORMULA, FIBRIOD BUSTER, and MOON CYCLE FORMULA. In re iron, you are taking POISON! The kind of iron you are taking is poisonous and mixes with sulfur in your body which creates constipation. I suggest Dherbs IRON PHOSPHATE FORMULA which is 100% all-natural with absolutely no adverse side effects! Also, you have to improve your diet. Nothing greatly causes fibroids than DAIRY PRODUCTS! The meat, potato chips, dairy, etc. is filling up your trashbags (tumors). Go VEGAN and RAW FOODS! Start reading some of our free health articles, i.e. â€FIBROID TUMORSâ€, â€WHAT IS RAW FOODSâ€, etc. Dherbs products can greatly help you and you'll see and/or feel the difference (as long as you don't cheat on your diet). There is much help for you!

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    A:

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    A:

    Greetings, Beloved! You have recognized at a very young age that school is a waste of time as measured against the subjects of your heart. Make the time to study the topics of your interest. It's well worth it, Beloved! I did it for many years of my life and when I was out of school and got into knowledge, I spent almost whole days studying the interests of my desires which has led me to the life I am now living. I'm glad I followed my heart. In regards to Dherbs, unfortunately Beloved, I am an Inter-net company only and thus have no positions available. What is your zodiac sign? Maybe we can help you to find work that is suitable to your interests. Your 10th House explains the area's best for you work-wise. Hey, thanks for reaching out, Beloved! One day I would like to employ thousands of people. If you ever want to talk or need advice, give me a call!

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    Q: I have question I was reading about menopause where you mentioned about vibrational menopause. I will be brief on this when I lie in bed I feel something moving up and down the side of me it scared me many times one night I stood up it felt like waves under my feet then I realized its me if I sit still and hold myself I can feel it also sometimes very strong. Can you explain what it is?

    A:

    You may be experiencing circulatory problems or nerve problems. 

    Try the Circulation Aid or Nerves Formula.

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    Q: I've been taking classes on how to be more responsible for myself naturally because, my Naturopath became a burden to my pocket. I have no insurance, and I don't make a great deal of money as a massage therapist. Visits were at least every six weeks. He did more talking (irrelavant to my case) than evaluating. The supplements I could find (same brand) for at least 1/2 the price elsewhere, but was left to trusting him for my first supply. I wasn't even sure why I was taking some of them. I've been reading as many of your articles as I can, in order to get a clue about what's best for me. YOUR GREAT! But there are times when I feel I need expert advice on how my body feels. Though I felt taken advantage of by my Naturopath. Can you give me an idea on how to ID a good one on this side of the world? What would be a typical intake? Price?

    A:

    Hmmm! Intake, Price? That's going to vary! The best way to determine anything is based upon your intuition (energy). A good ND listens to you! Their price is pretty economical, or they will work with you to help you out financially. They don't push their products on you, they just inform you on what you need. They let you know you have free will and choice! A good ND will allow you to ask questions and give you answers that suffice your questions.

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    Q: This is probably a strange request and I don't know if you can help, but my problem is tension in my face especially in my forehead and brow. I constantly have that "dear in the headlights" expression and I can't seem to stop. I am not a relaxed person for various reasons, but is there anything that can at least help me look calm and confident, even if I'm not?

    A:

    THERE IS NOTHING IN NATURE TO HELP YOU LOOK CALM AND RELAXED. HOWEVER, YOUR MIND CAN GIVE YOU THIS DESIRE. AS A MAN THINKETH SO IS HE.

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    Q: I like to request authoriziation to submit and share My Writings Monthly to Dherb for all to be inspired and empowered as a Freelance writer giving back. After reading the article on chemotherapy I am willing to share my Gift for so often healing starts in the mind.

    A:

    Sure! Submit to me at this e-mail address; Or, you can post them directly on our â€COMMUNITY BOARD†under "Spiritual/Inspirational."

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    Q: I think it is interesting that you spend a lot of time pushing your personal opinions and share limited advice. What do you understand about integrity and professionalism? Or even respect for others? I do not see it. If people are looking to you for help why do you spit on their problems? I was researching your site to help a client resolve their addiction to smoking. I have to say I was sadly disappointed to read your article. It is not helpful nor is it informative. In fact it enforces shame and negativity on those who seek help and positive life changes. I would hope you could restructure your article to benefit all. It would be beneficial to check out higher consciousness sites on herbal healing. I wish for you in this moment to find peace and resolve your anger and prejudice that is so apparent in your articles. Love, light and peace.

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    YOUR perception is not MY reality, Love. I am doing me and you do you. Tell you what: you do what I am failing to do or what you feel I am failing to do. This would be more appropriate. Pick up the ball where you deem it dropped. Talk is cheap and actions speak. I have done the actions and am doing them (read the reviews and testimonies on Dherbs.com). It speaks for itself. My new smoking article will reflect where I am presently, but it will still blast the ignorant cigarette smokers. One can't just blame government and the cigarette industry for the actions of the dumb cigarette smoker. Dumb and weak Americans must also foot partial blame, actually most of it, because they had a choice and there was no gun to their head forcing them to smoke. These people were simply weak and stupid and not to mention unconscious. Period! It doesn't sound nice but it's factual and truthful. I don't sugar coat the truth because sugar is a poison! The first article was written 6-7 years ago and that's why it's so brief. Thank you for visiting the #1 website in all-natural herbal products and raw uncompromising information that people all across the world are eating up and just can't get enough of.

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    Q: I just received your response. I hardly know where to begin, this is very difficult for me, but I know that I may need to explain my circumstance in part, so that I can get the correct help that I need. I was diagnosed with herpes in March of 2007. I recently ordered the Anti-Viral Detox System, but your reply message states that I should start with the Full Body Detox first. Aside from the detox's (I plan on ordering both now), is there anything else that you would suggest, I purchase for my well-being? Any additional affirmations, aura sprays, or vitamins and supplements?

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    Thank you for your words, Beloved! Glad you found us! You can heal, Beloved. Everything happens for a reason, Beloved. I'm glad you have made 2009 your year of healing, and reclaiming your health. Start living what you believe in. Belief is nothing, absent works (actions). Okay, on to healing! First, get some knowledge. Read our health articles! Especially read our "Mental Science Manual", to help you work on your mind which is where all healing begins. Perform, the Full Body Detox Cleanse, followed by the Anti-Viral (or vice versa). Take matters one day at a time. The Love Spray, will help you to heal energetically. You should also drink 1 cup of Female Health Tea, daily while on both cleanses. Consultations are also available too, Beloved. You can heal, beloved. With God all things are possible! Stay focused, optimistic, and positive, Beloved! Great things await you!

    Article:
    Is Genital herpes Really Curable?

    Product Links:
    The Mental Science Manual
    Female Health Tea
    Health Consultation
    Full Body Detox
    Anti-Viral Cleanse and Regimen

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    Q: I did the full body cleanse and now I'm almost done with the maintenance regimen. I've maintained my weight lost of 20 lbs and I love the way my body feel. I've implemented the healthy eating into my lifestyle. What do you recommend I take to continue my journey. Please advise.

    A: We're so happy to hear about your success and maintaining those results. We can better suggest what your next step is if you provide us with more insight on what you're looking to achieve next.

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    Q: At this time I would like to share, and ask for prayer until I am in a better financial situation to purchase items from your site. On February 25th, a day after my birthday, I am having an outpatient procedure done to excise areas affected by the HPV virus down below. I am terrified and don't want to go through with it, but at this time I feel I have to. I am so anxious and excited about gettings things together to be able to purchase the Full Body Cleanse, and anything else that I will need. I have struggled for years with issues concerning my female organs, pain with PMS, never been pregnant (don't think I can), and ovarian cysts. I just want my life back, I want energy and I want to feel and be healthy! I visit the site almost every single day, and I find it so interesting. It just makes me say," I can't wait to do this!" Since, I don't know where to start, I will schedule a visit so I know exactly what I need after the Full Body Cleanse.

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    Please take time to read the following article Human Papilloma Virus (HPV). Until you can afford the cleanse your body start eating plenty of raw vegetables, and fresh fruit daily.

     

     

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    Q: Hi, I am currently on the Anti-Viral Cleanse and I can feel that it is working. Mainly I am noticing I'm having dreams of past experiences which have emotional trauma which I have associated with having herpes. These are really intense and I know they are the herbs working as these are memories I have tried to repress for years. Is there anything you recommend to help shift this stored energy? I think I need help to move these emotions or the healing won't be complete. Also - I forgot to take the pills for an entire day and a half on the cleanse as I was delayed at a work conference. Will this break the entire cleanse and I need to start from the beginning again? I look forward to hearing from you, Emily Steckelbruck +61 413 391 064

    A:

    Sometimes your emotions does affect the healing process. You can try using some of the Elixirs to help clear out your emotions of the past like the Aura Cleansing Elixir or the Anti-Negative Thoughts Elixir. You can also try the Aromatherapy Inhalers. If it's still the same day you that you forget to take one of the formula's you can still take it at a later time.

    If you forget and it's the day after just continue on without it or add an extra day to the cleanse. Taking them out of order doesn't have an effect on your cleanse as long as you're still taking the supplements daily. The schedule can be adjusted according to you personal time, just be sure that the hours in between are the same as listed in the manual. It is significant to follow the regiment exactly.

    Anti-Hate Elixir - http://dherbs.com/store/antihate-elixir-p-302.html Anti-Negative Thoughts Elixir - http://dherbs.com/store/antinegative-thoughts-elixir-p-308.html Aura Cleansing Elixir - http://dherbs.com/store/aura-cleansing-elixir-p-299.html Spiritual Bliss Inhaler - http://dherbs.com/store/spiritual-bliss-inhaler-p-168.html Feel Good Inhaler - http://dherbs.com/store/feel-good-inhaler-p-156.html