Ways You’re Accidentally Making Yourself Miserable

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The world we live in does a great job of creating the illusion of perfection. Stories of romance and dream jobs, images of beauty and functional families — it’s no wonder we’re all under the impression perfection is occurring next door and is possible for us, too.

But many of us aren’t aware of how destructive this belief can be. Here are five reasons why believing in “perfect” is contributing to your dissatisfaction in various areas of your life:

1. Trying to be perfect is preventing you from committing to a relationship if you’re single, or being satisfied with your current one if you’re not.

By waiting around for Mr. or Ms. Perfect, we refuse to commit to the kindhearted, witty, but not quite tall enough/smart enough/rich enough potential partner. This is fine if you’re happy being single, but all to often we yearn for a relationship yet refuse the intimacy and compassion of a less-than-perfect other.

Alternatively, if you’re in a relationship, believing in perfect contributes to under-appreciating our partner. We compare them to this fantasy partner (something known as comparison level for alternatives), thus noticing where they are lacking, rather than accepting and embracing their imperfections.

2. Trying to be perfect is making you hate your appearance.

Just 10 more pounds, and I’ll finally be totally satisfied with my body. Bigger biceps. A flatter tummy. Maybe just a little Botox. Yep, that will make me perfect.

But we know how this goes: once we lose ten pounds, we fixate on something else. We get the Botox, and notice new wrinkles elsewhere. Believing that we can achieve perfection in our appearance leads to criticizing and shaming our current selves. And, thanks to impermanence, our appearance is always changing; so as soon as we “perfect” one area, we can guarantee another we’ll find another way to deem our appearance unacceptable before long.

Accepting and embracing our imperfections doesn’t mean we can’t still attempt to lose weight or get cosmetic work done; however, try to do it with the knowledge that perfection is impossible, and give yourself love and appreciation now.

3. Trying to be perfect is making you suffer through the mundane parts of your job.

I love working with clients, but you know what I don’t love? Case notes. Or cleaning out my Inbox. Or cleaning … anything.

We all have parts of our jobs we dislike. That’s why believing in the “perfect” job — completely free of mundane or tedious tasks — might be holding you back from fully experiencing and enjoying your day-to-day life.

Of course, that doesn’t mean that you can’t acknowledge that you might not be in this career forever, or that you shouldn’t keep your eye out for other opportunities. In fact, it’s even possible to find everyday happiness at jobs even where we are often frustrated. But that feeling of constantly searching for the mythical job that will never leave you bored or irritated — that’s what might be creating unnecessary suffering in your life.

4. Trying to be perfect is making you beat yourself up as a parent.

You know that vision of the parent who drives the kids (and their friends) to practice, keeps the house immaculate, makes a gourmet meal every night, and somehow still appears fit and well-rested? Or the parent who never raises their voice when they’re angry, and whose angelic children do their homework and go to bed on time and never get in trouble at school?

Well guess what? This is not reality. And above all, this idea is likely causing you to believe that you’re a failure of a parent. Of course there are areas where you’ll want to hold yourself to the highest standard: abuse and neglect are never OK; however, aim for being a good enough parent otherwise. You’ll be much happier.

5. Trying to be perfect is making you resent everyday dissatisfaction and annoyances.

In the past week, I accidentally deleted all my contacts in my phone … twice. My computer bit the dust (with dozens of hours of work lost), my gmail stopped delivering to addresses that weren’t gmail, my Amazon order got lost in the mail, and the prescription I paid to have FedEx-ed from Canada turned out to be filled incorrectly. I went to yoga with the hopes of detaching from my irritation, and I ran into an ex and his super bendy, super hot girlfriend. I’m sure you know those days when life just feels insane.

Now, nobody died, and I still have all my limbs, but I felt cheated that so many things in my week didn’t go “according to plan.” In reality, I was influenced by the dominant narrative in our society: that daily life is breezy and these things don’t (or shouldn’t) happen. But they do, and when we accept that, we’re liberated. Everyday dissatisfaction are part of life. Instead of resenting them, try to accept that they’re inevitable and embrace them with humor and wisdom.

So take a moment, and survey where in your life the illusion of “perfect” is contributing to frustration, resentment, and unhappiness. You’ll be much happier knowing “good enough” is the perfect of reality.

Source: www.mindbodygreen.com

2015-11-12T17:25:52+00:00

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    Greetings & Namaste,

    First, thank you for being U-activated!  So many potential energies unable to convert into kinetic activities because of our Earthly baggage(s).  Personally, I haven't found the right formula to keep my beautiful curves, which is the major reason I am not vegan/raw now.  In my perfect world, I'd have a great-tasting, non-dairy,wheat & gluten source of protein, juiced exotic veggie/fruit smoothies, yummy raw nuts/raisins, and absolutely no meat- the fountain of youth, literally, running thru my body!  As i'm sure the cognitive wheels of your expertise are spiraling ready solutions, I ask that you also factor in social-economic status, and workout regiment. From my perspective, the price of health food is aggresively over-inflated compared to the affordability of processed and junk foods; add to that a general inaccessibility to the impoverished & disenfranchised, and dysfunctional eating psychologies impregnating entire families (for generations). I prefer high energy, high impact, anaeorobic & weight-lifting training activities.  So, you can see a petite person's dilemma.  Thanks so much for your time and thoughts.  Ms. Tiffany Janine"

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    Unfortunately, I know of no doctors outside of California, my home state. Try contacting Karyn Calabrese. Do a Google search on her name and you should be able to get her contact info. She owns 2 restaurants in the Chicago area. She's an alternative health practitioner. I've been to her spot in Chicago.

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    Q: I was online searching for some natural treatments for hair growth in Black Men when I came across your article. I must say that I believe it was so on point that I decided not to look any further. I'm 44 years of age and started noticing my hair thinning when about 12 years ago. I was one of those that you wrote about in your article chasing a lifestyle that is no longer an interest to me. I did fall into some bad habits that were not good for my health off and on over the past 15 years or so more off than on. My body type I would describe as athletic. I'm tone, and strong when I exercise regularly. I'm about 150lbs @ 5'11". My diet is mostly vegetables but from time to time I feel I have to eat fish or chicken. Not necessarily prepared in the healthiest way I'm sure. I just got out of one of my "on" spells so to speak. Meaning the drinking of beer and cigarettes. I've been smoking and drinking beer now since September 2006 after not having done anything but live healthy for six years before that. As soon as my wife and I came back to the states and started working and runnign again these old destructive habits appeared again in my life. I only blame myself though. Right now my hair and skin suffer from the chemical poisoning from the habits that I just mentioned. I am prepared to take your advice about righteous living to heart and start fresh again. Is there a mild remedy that can work with me to stimulate the re-growth of my hair in the spots where it is balding in that classic balding pattern? I am generally very healthy when I doing right and even now rarely get sick. But my sickness manifest in stress and bad habits to num the pain of having to live this way when don't really want to. I quit the job that I've been working for the past 4 years for that reason and have been blessed to have some time not to grind everyday chasing after money. Now is a crucial time of healing for me, and I must take full advantage of the time. Moderation is in order for whatever you can suggest for me in the way of herbal remedies. I am sure that you can prescribe a simple overall regiment for my overall health based on what I have shared with you with an emphasis on the hair and skin. Again, thank you for writing the article. Call or write. The sooner the better.......Thank You!!

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    I would say first detox with the FULL BODY DETOX and get your diet right CONSISTENTLY! Constantly clean your temple! This is key! Next, perform the TOTAL MALE CLEANSE. After this, do a daily regimen of HAIR SKIN NAILS FORMULA, ELECTRIC GREENS CELL FOOD, KHEMETIAN GOLD, and MSM SULFUR. Forgive yourself of past self-inflicted harm! Stop worrying about your hair loss. Start visualizing your hair growing back. If you can see it, you will achieve it! The mind is all and problems and remedies begin in the mind! BTW: we offer phone consultations if you're interested.