Why Restoring Self-Trust Will Transform Your Life

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Did you know that every single one of us is born with an inner resource that, if nurtured and cultivated by our caregivers at a young age, would’ve nurtured us to thrive with self-love?

This resource is self-trust. Think about it: every baby knows when she’s hungry and tired. Every toddler knows what he likes to eat and with whom he wants to socialize. As children, we grow up knowing ourselves — our rhythms, tastes and preferences. But because the “big people” around always told us that they knew better, we believed them and our intrinsic self-trust became buried.

Eventually, we became conditioned to seek the approval and guidance of others instead of trusting our own. As a result, many of us suffer from the symptoms of self-doubt: crippling indecision, constant desire for approval, perfectionism, and the fear of failure.

Not only does self-trust become buried beneath the belief that everyone else knows better than we do, but it becomes weakened by our constant desire to receive external validation. Self-trust sits like a precious stone at the bottom of the well of self. When the waters of the well of self are full — when you know yourself and trust yourself — you will love yourself.

In other words, knowing yourself + loving yourself = trusting yourself

We learn early on that if we do things “right,” we will receive the smiles of our caregivers and teachers — oh, how those smiles feel like sunlight to a young person’s emerging selfhood! When we seek validation in this way, it’s like walking around holding a bottomless bucket, waiting for it to be filled. While we may experience happiness or reassurance when someone gives us approval, these feelings are short-lived.

That’s why the bucket is bottomless: we could spend the rest of our lives climbing up a corporate, educational, creative, or social ladder. We could achieve everything externally that we ever thought would bring happiness. And yet we could still be left without the experience of true and sustainable fulfillment.

Healthy self-trust is like having an internal GPS system: you know where to go next, you trust your decisions both big and small, and you’re willing to take risks. You won’t fear failure or making mistakes because your sense of self isn’t externally derived.

Just as we don’t gaze upon a newborn baby and say, “I will love you if you attend Harvard Medical School and marry a beautiful partner and have two healthy children and make tons of money,” we shouldn’t make the notion of loving ourselves conditional, dependent upon external factors.

You are worthy because you exist. Your self-doubt and perfectionism may be standing in the way of manifesting those gifts, but they’re there nonetheless, like an effervescent river finding its way from your inner depths out into the world.

Well-being hinges upon self-trust. Is it possible to learn how to trust yourself when you’ve abdicated your self-trust your entire life? Without a doubt. Since self-trust is your birthright it was yours from the start and still lives inside of you, sitting unbroken like a shimmering crystal.

As with all areas of self-growth, the path of healing requires time, patience, and commitment. Change doesn’t occur in thirty days or in three simple steps, but following these simple guidelines will help to redirect your attention from the external to the internal, thereby beginning the process of restoring self-trust:

1. Start and end each day by turning inward.

This means that instead of reaching for your phone first thing in the morning, you reach for your journal, book of inspiration, take a moment for yourself. Try engaging in a simple yoga or breath practice. When practiced every day, this action alone will help you redirect the focus of your attention from external to internal and will change your life.

2. Get to know your intrinsic wiring.

Embrace your form of intelligence, your temperament, and your level of sensitivity. When you learn about the many forms of intelligences, as Howard Gardner brilliantly elucidated, you restore a piece of yourself self-knowledge and self-love, which restores your self-trust. The same is true with temperament and sensitivity.

3. Go on a Facebook diet.

If you struggle with caring about what others think, Facebook is guaranteed to amplify this struggle. It’s nearly impossible to go onto Facebook without comparing yourself to others in some way. If Facebook is a way that you communicate with friends, try picking up the phone instead.

Experiment with these suggestions for 30 days and see how you feel. I have yet to work with someone who didn’t notice a difference in their levels of self-trust and peace when they implemented these changes and learned to funnel their precious time and energy inward in nourishing ways.

By: Sheryl Paul
Source: www.mindbodygreen.com

2014-10-27T11:56:04+00:00

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    Q: Dear Yogi, I read an article on your site about reverse Kundalini (anal sex). I don't know if you can answer my question or not - originally I was going to pose it to "Ask the Guru", but in my limited understanding, Kundalini is tied into yoga. I have been trying to get balanced by meditating, living my passions, writing, art, and belly dancing all unprofessionally, except for the first one (on a very small scale). I have been doing guided chakra meditations and other things, including yoga, and some dietary modifications. I feel I am gradually growing and living my purpose. However, incrementally starting in my mid forties. Anyway, I have been on this path for a couple of years now, and have more happiness and peace than I ever have. I don't want to get into a lengthy essay about my limited understanding of Kundalini, and the possibility of what I perceive is going on with my body (though I am very healthy) right now, so I will attempt to get to the point. I am grateful for my life. I have much more than many people if I were to measure. I feel like I am still blocked, though. About three years ago I dated a guy who sodomized me one time. He was a rapist, long story short and an error in judgement on my part. Though my intuition was screaming at me the whole time. I look at the experience as pushing me further along my path and teaching me to trust, love, respect myself, and defend my boundaries. What concerns me is that I feel that experience is still trapped within me to a degree, and I am worried that it will manifest into a disease. Often when I meditate on my root chakra I start crying. Part of me believes that I can't force anything, just have to let the process unfold in its own time. There is so much info out there that I find it overwhelming, and it is hard to know which to trust. So I have just been going with what resonates with me as far as technique. If you could offer me any advice, I would be grateful.

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    Hello, I would like to first thank you for sharing your story and your experience. It sounds like you are devoting time and attention to the many things, that will help foster a sustained health and healing for you in life. As you have recognized, it is very helpful for us to take intuition very seriously and to honor this innate ability to discern whether a situation will be harmful or beneficial to our growth and experience as humans. Very often the circumstances and challenges presented to us in life, as happened in yours, serve as great teachers in allowing us to witness our own great strength, compassion, and value. I am glad to hear that you have been able to take the very difficult situation you found yourself in and use your experience to create a better understanding of yourself in the process. While it is true that we tend to develop patterns of holding and habitual ways of holding tension within the body; this does not mean that there are not steps you can take to move through such a body, mind, and spirit experience. The fact that you are crying upon meditating on your root chakra is a sign that you have made yourself available to the grief that naturally accompanies traumatic situations such as the one you experienced. Keep in mind that when we deeply grieve, our bodies are able to express the energy that may have potentially been repressed during this experience. The energy of the root chakra is all about our ability to feel safe, strong, and supported. The violation of this energy can leave one feeling ungrounded and striving for our self-preservation. Try not to become fixated on the worries you are having about the experience arising as disease in your body, as worrying can lead to increased levels of chronic stress, which will potentially create an internal environment more vulnerable to disease - which is what you are trying to avoid. It might be nice for you to meditate on your right to be here, to exist on this planet, and to be valued. It may also be very nice for you to take some restorative yoga classes, which can be grounding and stimulating to the parasympathetic nervous system (assists in the healing process). Recognize that the body may be holding energy in a direct response to a real threat, but begin to create a safe, loving and supportive environment to allow yourself to begin to be able to let go of this holding as you feel safe. When working to heal the first chakra, it is helpful to get in touch with the direct experience of the sensations of the body and become aware of the physical experience of the body. This can be done with the assistance of an expert, to help you change the physical expression of your felt experience. We could also do something called "body dialogue" to put you more deeply in touch with what the physical expression you are experiencing has to teach you about how you are inhabiting the world you are in. There are also many forms of grounding exercises which can help to balance the first chakra. If you are interested in being lead through a series of guided meditations, please contact me at megan@ritualwellbeing.com. Namaste, Megan

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    Q: I recently ordered the Female Package as well as the Fibroid buster. While I trust your company and its products, I realize that everyone is different and I feel the need to address an issue. I have been doing some research that gave me warnings against red clover, stating that it is an herb that can actually stimulate estrogen receptor positive breast cancer cells to grow. While I have no reason to believe that I have positive BC cells in my body, I would like to take every possible precaution to assure I am doing the right things. I have taken every measure to eliminate pharmaceutical, and xenoestrogens from my life in an attempt to rebalance my hormones naturally. I have been diagnosed with uterine fibroids as well as estrogen dominance so this issue is definitely a concern for me. I have listed the link below with the source of this information. I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter.

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    Continue to don't believe the hype! Herbs are benevolent foods and help you, not hurt you. Red Clover is the best herb available as the most natural source of beneficial bio-organic and available female estrogen hormone -- THE BEST! Therefore, I highly recommend Red Clover for females for every female complaint and/or to maintain female health. This herb is noble. In re fibroid tumors, we are introducing our NEW 3-Wekk Fibroid Buster Kit and Regimen to expedite the healing process of uterine-ovarian-cervical tumors and cysts. I highly recommend this kit. However, right now I would recommend the Fibroid Buster formula and Moon Cycle formula in addition to the female health tea. Your estrogen dominance is due to UN-NATURAL hormone, not natural hormone -- so needed to worry about natural sources of hormone (from herbs). Stay positive, believe in the best (especially for yourself), stay focused (on your healing), keep a positive attitude about your state of being (attitude about self), and live righteously and success in all ways is yours. There is help for you, Beloved! Read some of our health articles pertaining to female reproductive health issues. You'll find them interesting! Thank you for your interest in Dherbs.Com

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    Q: I would like to know what I can do to get my boyfriend back? It's been 5 months since we've been broken up, I have trust issues. I texted him form another number. I love him dearly though. It's as if we've been broken up since yesterday, I cannot get him off my mind or out of my system. I have to have my Papa Bear back!

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    You must first work on your trust issues. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone that does not trust them. This is a sign from the Universe that you need to do some self improvement. Most people with trust issues do not love themselves, and have a fear of being vulnerable. You must love yourself, and be able to be vulnerable to attract the kind of love you want. This is your opportunity to clean up this negative energy in yourself. If you do not, this will keep happening to you. It's time to love yourself, and then you will get your man! You can try to call him and tell him you miss him, and you want to work on the relationship. If he is open he will respond. Tell him you know you have issues and you are working on them. If he does not respond, work on yourself anyway. This is about you not him. You can do it!
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    Q: Greetings, I wanted to first say thanks for all of the great advice you have given me over the past couple of months. On Tuesday my husband and I welcomed our second daughter into the world. We had a natural birth with a midwife, and it was the best experience ever! So, you know I have a question for you. My midwife, and pediatrician are worried, and preplexed because my daughter who was born on Tuesday has not had a bowel movement yet. She has not passed any meconium at all, and from what I've read newborns are supposed to pass this within 24 hours after birth. I was full term at 40 weeks at the time of delivery. The baby had a full ultrasound today, and I am waiting to hear the results. We are keeping a positive outlook, but you know I had to get your take on the situation because I trust your judgement and advice. I've also sent you a few photos of my family and our new baby girl. Take care and the best to you and your family.

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    Greetings! Wow! Adorable, precious little baby. Kudos to you and the family! Beloved, trust in Nature. Every body, and every baby is different. The baby will release when he/she is ready to release. My recent son didn't release until 2-3 days later. However, he eventually released. Babies are not on our worldly time schedule. We shouldn't hold them to our worldly expectations, because then we start to think something is wrong (with them), and start worrying which is unhealthy. Just show the love! That's it! Nature got this!!! I have a new e-book "The Complete Home-Birth Guidebook" you will find of great assistance with your post-natal process and period. Great information for you in it! Peace and love!

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    Q: Your products as a whole all look interesting really. But I thought I would ask about the anti-viral kit. My mother was actually diagnosed with herpes a few years back due to a jackass of a husband she had. I know she's been taking the suppressive medication for it. I personally do not have much faith in modern medicine. I don't really trust doctors, they are easily paid off by big pharmaceutical companies. Anyway, is the single kit generally enough to rid a person of their viral problems? I am sure there's many factors on this but in general is it enough? Personally am even thinking of purchasing it for myself as well as the other cleanse products. I have been reading a lot about the ph diets and while I don't believe my diet is as bad as most Americans. I would like to run some complete cleanse stuff on me. Probably all of them actually. Make sure to get out everything. Virus bacteria and acidic deposits. So even will probably look at your std cleanse.

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    In many cases, only one kit is necessary to eradicate the herpes virus. For more severe cases, some individuals may need to also perform the Full Body Cleanse or perform 2 Anti-Viral Kits to strengthen the immune system and continue to fight against viral disease and infection.

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    Q: I have been listening to the Warren Balentine show and I heard you share your knowledge and wisdom all the time. I was just informed by my PCP that I had an abnormal pap and tested positive for HPV. I go have to go and see my OB tomorrow so they can scrape my cervix. I was diagnosed with this disease back in 1996 before I got married. Since then, I have given birth to four children. My last pap was before my fourth child and it was a normal pap. What products do you offer that can help fight and get rid of this disease. I do not want to take anything they might prescribe. I do not trust the drug industry at all. Your help would be appreciated.

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    I would suggest you first perform the FULL BODY DETOX kit first, then the ANTI-VIRAL CLEANSE AND REGIMEN, followed by the TOTAL WOMAN CLEANSE. Drink FEMALE HEALTH TEA daily even while doing these cleanses. You can heal from HPV. It happens all the time!

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    It's a sign that you need to take better care of your sexual reproductive area, predicated upon sexual behavior as well. I recommend that you first detox (Full Body Detox) followed by the Total Male Cleanse!

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    NONSENSE! BREATHING IN OZONE IS VERY GOOD FOR YOU. I RUN AN OZONE MACHINE EVERYDAY! NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT!

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    Q: There seems to be a cure or a treatment for everything but kidney disease and trust me I have been looking since 1997 when I was diagnosed with focal glomerulosclerosis. I have been on dialysis for a year and a half now. My Dr told me that once your filters in your kidneys are damaged there is no way the can be replenished. That is what happened to me. The scare tissue in my kidney are so severe that they do not filter my blood properly. I have talked to other herbologist and doctors and the only thing they can recommend is transplant. I believe that God put everything we need to stay healthy on this planet. We just have to find what we need. I read on your web site that your herbs can cure kidney disease. I hope it can cure mine. What type of success have you had in getting patients off of dialysis and if you have how long did it take and what did they have to do?

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    Q: My wife is having problems, breast feeding. Complaints of soreness, and pain. She alternates between soy, and the breast milk, to give breast time to heal. We are also considering the IUD, for birth control. I suggested to her the diaphragm, or herbs. She doesn't trust the two. Also, what books would you reccomend that deals with the metaphysics of the body?

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    Q: Hello Sir. I seek your recommendation for the following challenges I am facing. I tried "Colonix" cleansing system 1.5 years ago and the results were damaging. I had a bowel movement (BM) which I felt travel down my intestine like it was brillo. The result was a BM surrrounded with a thin coating of blood. I was shocked!!! I had always been fairly regular with my BM's 2-3x per day with occassional constipation during PMS time but since that "cleanse" I have been reduced to 1x a day maybe, hard as rocks and I am now a regular user of laxatives(which I do not like at all!!) Aside from that, I have gained 60 pounds and I am having a difficult time losing the weight. Prior to the "cleanse" I had NEVER had a weight problem nor BM problem. I have a regular DR. whom has stated I have no health issues, just the need to lose this weight. 2nd topic: I had an STD when I was 17 yo (37 now) which damaged my fallopian tubes. I have had 2 pregnancies 1 prior to and 1 after the STD, the latter resulted in a total abdominal pregnancy and the pregnancy (20 weeks) had to be terminated. I have not been pregnant since. The DR. removed 1 tube & ovary and stated the remaining tube was damaged. I went on the pill for many years, as not to repeat that experience, and have now been pill free for 2 years, not preventing pregnancy in any way, yet not becoming pregnant. I believe my body can heal itself with the proper natural remedy as I do not trust Western Medicine as a first choice. I have read many of the testimonials and have heard your ad's and believe in your philosiphy for better health. I would like to try your products but do not know where to begin. Please help. Thank you,

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    I think you'll find our 10-DAY SUPREME COLON CLEANSE right up your alley, very effective, and very gentle to your system. Please give it a try to help eradicate your constipation. FYI: It is ideal to detox with the FULL BODY DETOX first and then the 10-DAY SUPREME COLON CLEANSE. There is much healing in store for you! Claim it NOW! Peace and Love!

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    Q: I am beginning a career as an artist but I am a single mother. I have worked in many corporate offices as a temp. I have attempted attending schools for things I thought would make me money. I really want to be a successful artist but I also have to take care of my son and work on art and work on my freelance contracts. I do not make the money I want or live where I want to live yet. I help my mother with her bills, I buy groceries and cook for everyone, I work at my uncles center for children and out of an art gallery at the homeless shelter as well as attend courses regarding the art business. I am doing it all without acquiring debt but I would like to know if it sounds like I am doing enough. I live a very lonely life, no real friends, no boyfriend. The only "kicks" I get are smoking a little weed and drinking a little wine here and there. I take my son to school and pick him up daily. I made sure I got him into one of the top schools in my city I also try to teach him and read to him as much as possible and keep him out of trouble. It gets hard. How do I stay motivated? I think the thing that bothers me most is uncertainty and the lack of money I have right now. How do I get to the next level financially without acquiring debt or having to fight traffic and deal with crazy attitudes every day?

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    I apologize for the very delayed response, we have been experiencing technical difficulties.  I first would like to commend you on your ability to prioritize in such an effective manner.  Your life sounds like one lived in great service to  and love of others.  However, it is also VERY important that you receive energy from others so that you do not become too imbalanced.  Balance in life is crucial in all things (spiritual, physical, cognitive, relational etc).

    Your loneliness is your heart's/spirit's way of asking for relational balance.  It will continue asking louder and cause difficulties in other areas of your life/being until you create this balance.  Your substance use (and thank you for your honesty) only temporarily masks the loneliness, but drugs can only make it worse.  You see, drugs block us from becoming skilled at creating healthy relationships because they numbs us by turning down the volume on our brain's natural pleasure-centers.

    Additionally; keep in mind:  Your first fruits are always to be consumed by YOU!  You must always place yourself first, even before your son.  In example:  Airlines direct you that in the event of trouble you are to place your own oxygen mask on first.  You can be of no use to your son if you are unconscious due to lack of oxygen.  Similarly, if you give all of your fruits to others, you will have no "seed" or energy to produce more fruit.  

    You must give to you first!  Then you have the energy to give to others.  It teaches others how to give to you, how to love you, how to respect you and your needs while giving them the opportunity to reciprocate by giving to you.  This is how we balance giving.  Don't worry if it feels selfish at first, it definitely will seem that way, to you and possibly others.  Its just the change of tides making everyone feel a bit uncomfortable - but this will balance out in time as you become  more skilled at receiving and feel more worthy of others' care .

    I realize you have asked several other questions, however I have addressed the one I feel will help unblock your energy and allow you to see that the answers to the other questions have always been right before you.  We are born with everything we need to accomplish our goals, we only need to focus on the proper utilization of these gifts and resources.  If you couple this skill with fearlessness and belief in oneself, you will win.

    This communication does not constitute a client/coach relationship.  This is for information purposes only.

    Life is simply beautiful! 

    Enjoy your Self!

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    Q: Hi, I have been dealing with what I believe to be depression for years. I once was prescribed Zoloft and I took the meds for 1 month. I did not want to take drugs so I discontinued use. I have gone up and down in my career and love life. Now I just feel tired and feel I am steadily spiraling down. I know I have to do something, I just don't know what. I have gone to therapy several times and nothing last. I desire to have a full life and believe GOD wants us to live abundantly. I just seem to keep struggling, I will do well for a few weeks then out of nowhere I will start sabotaging things. Can you tell me what products I can use to gain my life back?

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    You can get your life back, Ma'am! First, DETOX (FULL BODY DETOX). Read our free articles while Detoxing and make sure you order and read our MENTAL SCIENCE MANUAL too which is very important in healing as it shows you how to work the mind to your benefit.

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    Q: Thank you once again for your advice and your article on love. I was in so much pain when I emailed you all I could think of was that maybe death would give me peace. As your articles say, heartache, the broken light cord, hurts something terrible in the most literal sense. Your articles give me so much comfort and peace, you are truly blessed. I read everything is Okay as often as I can to remind me to go with the flow of life. Since your first email I have started working with Rose quartz, Rhodocrosite, and Adventurine. I've started practicing Qi Gong and this is helping to put me in tune with who I really am, divine. I cannot say it has been all peaches and cream, the journey up has been bumpy- I have to read and re-read, make the conscious decisions to let go of old patterns. Thank you for your love. Thank you for taking the time to reach back out to a stranger when you did not have to. I am on your site now ready to make my second purchase. There are two 4th Charka elixirs for sale, which one should I purchase? The abundance elixir- is this meant to bring abundance or change my thinking on abundance? I apologize if this question sounds ignorant but I'm slightly confused. One last thing Dherbs.com, you speak of a Three in One modality and advise your reader to get one. What is this and how can I get one? Also, how can I schedule a Charka Consult with you? I know this is a great deal of questions and comments, thank you so much, so very much, for your time.

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    Thank you so much for your e-mail, beloved! Much obliged! Glad to hear Dherbs is helping you on your wonderful journey. Death is never the answer, Beloved. Please read my new article on â€SUICIDEâ€, which explains why (if you haven't already). In re: Charka elixirs I would suggest the FOURTH CHAKRA #2 the one for the Heart as compared to "healing." My friend Julie no longer offers the 3-in-1 sessions, which were so beneficial. However, we still offer charka balancing and can do a reading by phone ($55) if you're interested.

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    Q: I know your very busy, but I would be very appreciative if you could help me in any way that you can. I'm 22 with a 7 month old baby, with no support from my family. Over the last 3 months the father decided that he doesn't love me anymore, and has done an obscene about of things to disrespect me. Which leaves me hurt, and stressed out! I'm mentally, spiritually, and physically drained. I have no peace of mind, and I tend to fall in and out of depression. I feel like I'm going to breakdown, and the tears just won't stop falling. I'm trying to keep it together for my baby. Internally, I've been hurt so bad, I just feel like giving up. How can you love someone one minute, and the next not care for them at all? How do I deal with her father? I'm so tired of being the bigger person, and trying to work through things. He just doesn't care at all, and he makes no effort to even try. He then turns around and says, "He cares about his daughter". I try to explain to him that our relationship affects her, but he always has an answer for everything. I don't mean to dampen you with my problems, but I would appreciate it if you could not only hear me, but feel me and what I'm going through. Every little bit helps

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    Greetings, Beloved! You are upset because you expect something and expectation is your problem. You are expecting something beyond your control, expecting something coming from another person you can't control. Just do you and let karma take care of this dude. You just can't up and not love someone anymore. He's either saying that so as to bounce from the scene (leave) and his responsibilities or he never loved you in the first place and perhaps used you for his own purposes of sexual gratification and you ended up getting pregnant. At either rate, just do you and focus on you - what you desire for you and your child. Think positive! Let go of the situation involving this dude. Start on it TODAY! The dude is selfish and creating karma! Release him! You can't make a person do something that is not in them to do.

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    Q: I'm 17 years of age and go to a boarding high school in Florida. I just moved here from L.A. Over the summer. I've always been passionate about picking up valuable information that is not taught in schools. Even though I've always gotten good grades in all classes, I have always had a dislike for school. I feel like it is trapping me, because I have very little time to study topics that are truly beneficial such as law, herbs, history and many other topics. I just wanted to give you a brief background image of me; bottom line is this... I want to be part of what you are doing. I know you probably have so many positions filled. And I've never been materialistic and never liked school, but I also understand that if I want to get out in the world on my own right now I need to have a situation where I can make a sufficient amount of money to support myself. So I'm just letting you know I'm very passionate about helping people heal themselves and I would be very committed to what you are trying to accomplish in terms of healing people mentally and physically. I feel so thankful because most people don't get the opportunity to come across TRUE herbalism, TRU history, TRUE law, etc, until they are deep into adulthood, if ever. And I feel like I must fulfill my opportunity starting NOW. Because if I don't, I would be failing the mission I was incarnated here to do. Peace

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    Greetings, Beloved! You have recognized at a very young age that school is a waste of time as measured against the subjects of your heart. Make the time to study the topics of your interest. It's well worth it, Beloved! I did it for many years of my life and when I was out of school and got into knowledge, I spent almost whole days studying the interests of my desires which has led me to the life I am now living. I'm glad I followed my heart. In regards to Dherbs, unfortunately Beloved, I am an Inter-net company only and thus have no positions available. What is your zodiac sign? Maybe we can help you to find work that is suitable to your interests. Your 10th House explains the area's best for you work-wise. Hey, thanks for reaching out, Beloved! One day I would like to employ thousands of people. If you ever want to talk or need advice, give me a call!

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    Q: First off, I want to say that I am TRULY grateful for the work that you are doing. Words cannot convey my sincere gratitude. I will continue to tell my loved ones about the wonderful products, services, and information that you provide. I read your article on ADD/ADHD and was deeply saddened by the harm that is being done to our children. A very dear friend of mine has an 11 year old son that was diagnosed and is currently on medication for this so called condition. I have a 5 year old daughter who just started kindergarten. My daughter is HIGHLY sensitive and gets her feelings hurt very easily. She had two melt downs in class the first week of school. When she was 3 years old, a psychiatrist who was observing her behavior, told me that she thought she may be ADD/ADHD but I did not receive it. My question is how do we, as parents, who are still working in the matrix, educate our children. As a single mom, I do not currently possess the luxury to home-school my daughter and at the same time, I am not pleased with the public school (fool) system, or even private school that still follows the same guidelines and curriculum. Any suggestions?

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    You EDUCATE your children by living TRUTH, being the example of righteous living, personal responsibility, personal accountability, integrity, morals, ethics, etc. BE ABOUT IT! Children learn by watching and then emulating! LIVE IT! The examples from home are stronger than what's learned at school and your child admires you more than any other person. Thank you kindly for your words which are greatly appreciated, Beloved. Thank you so much!

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    Q: I have white spots over 40 percent on my body and some very dry scaly dark spots on parts of my body. I read some place in one of your articles that with these specific herbs regardless of the skin disorder these herbs will help to reverse the disorder regardless of skin condition. Second I don’t have health insurance so I’m looking to you for help. Please help me. I don’t trust doctors. You go see a doctor for one issue and he prescribes a drug, next thing you know your back with five new problems and more drugs. So is there a combination of herbs for optimum health and well being? Something that will produce excellent health preventing any invader of any kind harming me. Protecting every important organ for optimum health and well being (i.e. colon, heart, lungs, liver). I just want to be 100 percent straight with excellent health

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    Detox (FULL BODY DETOX) and then perform the 10-DAY ELECTRIC GREENS CELL FOOD CLEANSE. these kits should reboot your system.