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I know your very busy, but I would be very appreciative if you could help …

I know your very busy, but I would be very appreciative if you could help me in any way that you can. I’m 22 with a 7 month old baby, with no support from my family. Over the last 3 months the
father decided that he doesn’t love me anymore, and has done an obscene about of things to disrespect me. Which leaves me hurt, and stressed out! I’m mentally, spiritually, and physically drained. I
have no peace of mind, and I tend to fall in and out of depression. I feel like I’m going to breakdown, and the tears just won’t stop falling. I’m trying to keep it together for my baby. Internally,
I’ve been hurt so bad, I just feel like giving up. How can you love someone one minute, and the next not care for them at all? How do I deal with her father? I’m so tired of being the bigger person,
and trying to work through things. He just doesn’t care at all, and he makes no effort to even try. He then turns around and says, “He cares about his daughter”. I try to explain to him that our
relationship affects her, but he always has an answer for everything. I don’t mean to dampen you with my problems, but I would appreciate it if you could not only hear me, but feel me and what I’m
going through. Every little bit helps

Answer by Dherbs

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Greetings, Beloved! You are upset because you expect something and expectation is your problem. You are expecting something beyond your control, expecting something coming from another person you
can’t control. Just do you and let karma take care of this dude. You just can’t up and not love someone anymore. He’s either saying that so as to bounce from the scene (leave) and his
responsibilities or he never loved you in the first place and perhaps used you for his own purposes of sexual gratification and you ended up getting pregnant. At either rate, just do you and focus on
you – what you desire for you and your child. Think positive! Let go of the situation involving this dude. Start on it TODAY! The dude is selfish and creating karma! Release him! You can’t make a
person do something that is not in them to do.

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